*Iddah of a woman who lost a husband*
Allah Ta'alah says in the Glorious Quran:
And those of you who die and leave wives behind them, they (the wives) shall wait (as regards their marriage) for four months and ten days, then when they have fulfilled their term, there is no sin on you if they (the wives) dispose of themselves in a just and honourable manner (i.e., they can marry). And Allaah is Well-Acquainted with what you do. [al-Baqarah 2:234]
In talking about Iddah, Umm Atiyah reported from the Messenger of Allah: No woman should mourn for a dead person for more than three days, except for a husband, (in which case the period of mourning is) four months and ten days. She should not wear any coloured clothes, only simple dress. She should not apply kohl to her eyes, or use perfume, except for a little qust or izfaar (types of perfume), when she cleans herself after finishing her period. (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
Do's and Donts' of Iddah (deceased's wife)
💬-It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to use perfume, whether on her body or on her clothes (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to adorn herself with things like henna or facial make-up, or to use kohl unnecessarily, or to use anything else that may make her beautiful and attractive to others. (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to wear attractive clothes, such as clothes dyed with safflower or saffron, or other types of red dyes and colours that are used for adornment.
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to wear jewellery.
💬- is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to spend the night outside her own home, meaning the home of her deceased husband, except for some Islamically legitimate reason, such as her being afraid for her own safety, or being evicted by the landlord of rented premises, etc. If a recently-widowed woman needs to go out for medical treatment, to attend legal proceedings in court, to take exams in school, or to go shopping when she has no-one who can do this for her, then she should do these things during the day, so long as she comes back home to her husbands house before maghrib (sunset). (Reported by al-Nisaai, 3479, and others).
💬- he is forbidden to marry or draw up a marriage contract; even engagement is forbidden, unless it is merely hinted at and not stated clearly. (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1125).
Attention:
Based on scholarly consensus, Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Mughni (8/130): women who work are allowed to go to work or market to buy something, or masjid to pray. But they are not allowed to go out at night.
How to finish Iddah
There are a lot of bid'a in completing Iddah. in some tradition an elderly woman has to come and take you out of iddah, while others have to do some sacrifises and so on. To get out of iddah period, you must complete the stipulated duration. When you are due, you simply finished. No any basis for any sacrifice, celebration, crying or similar events.
Allah Ta'alah says in the Glorious Quran:
And those of you who die and leave wives behind them, they (the wives) shall wait (as regards their marriage) for four months and ten days, then when they have fulfilled their term, there is no sin on you if they (the wives) dispose of themselves in a just and honourable manner (i.e., they can marry). And Allaah is Well-Acquainted with what you do. [al-Baqarah 2:234]
In talking about Iddah, Umm Atiyah reported from the Messenger of Allah: No woman should mourn for a dead person for more than three days, except for a husband, (in which case the period of mourning is) four months and ten days. She should not wear any coloured clothes, only simple dress. She should not apply kohl to her eyes, or use perfume, except for a little qust or izfaar (types of perfume), when she cleans herself after finishing her period. (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
Do's and Donts' of Iddah (deceased's wife)
💬-It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to use perfume, whether on her body or on her clothes (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to adorn herself with things like henna or facial make-up, or to use kohl unnecessarily, or to use anything else that may make her beautiful and attractive to others. (Reported by Muslim, 2739).
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to wear attractive clothes, such as clothes dyed with safflower or saffron, or other types of red dyes and colours that are used for adornment.
💬- It is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to wear jewellery.
💬- is forbidden for the recently-widowed woman to spend the night outside her own home, meaning the home of her deceased husband, except for some Islamically legitimate reason, such as her being afraid for her own safety, or being evicted by the landlord of rented premises, etc. If a recently-widowed woman needs to go out for medical treatment, to attend legal proceedings in court, to take exams in school, or to go shopping when she has no-one who can do this for her, then she should do these things during the day, so long as she comes back home to her husbands house before maghrib (sunset). (Reported by al-Nisaai, 3479, and others).
💬- he is forbidden to marry or draw up a marriage contract; even engagement is forbidden, unless it is merely hinted at and not stated clearly. (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1125).
Attention:
Based on scholarly consensus, Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Mughni (8/130): women who work are allowed to go to work or market to buy something, or masjid to pray. But they are not allowed to go out at night.
How to finish Iddah
There are a lot of bid'a in completing Iddah. in some tradition an elderly woman has to come and take you out of iddah, while others have to do some sacrifises and so on. To get out of iddah period, you must complete the stipulated duration. When you are due, you simply finished. No any basis for any sacrifice, celebration, crying or similar events.
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