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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

It is not wrong if a woman is watchful of her husband, but only if it does not grow to exceed to a state of suspicion and mistrust. Yes. Suspicion is a destructive and incurable illness. And Unfortunately, majority of women are affected by this disease.

A woman of suspicion imagines that her husband is, lawfully or unlawfully, disloyal to her. She imagines that he is married to another woman or that he is going to marry her. She suspects him of having an affair with his colleague at work or another woman.

These types of women also tell others, friends and foes about it, who, in the name of sympathy, add salt to injury by reinforcing the allegations 😀 and in turn tell the concerned women about other unfaithful men. Arguments and rows start to take shape. She would monitor him and search his pockets😀. She would read his calls log and messages and would explain any trivial matter as due to his unfaithfulness.

If a couple continues to live in this situation, then they would both suffer, and if they show stubbornness towards each other, they would surely lead to a divorce.. In the case of a divorce taking place, both man and wife would be losers. And sometimes women loses more.

Madam!

1⃣ The subject of your husband's unfaithfulness, like every other subject, needs proof. As long as his guilt is not proved, you do not have any right to convict him.

Would you not be hurt if someone accused you of something without any proof? Is it possible to consider your baseless theories as proof of an important crime such as adultery? Allah (swt) say:👇

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ

"O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin..." 📚(Q49:12)

Madam!

If your husband has a private desk or a safe; and if he does not let you read his letters or peep 🙄 through his phone 📲, do not think of him as having a mistress. Yes. Men generally have a sense of secrecy and modesty. They do not like others to be informed of some of their affairs, perhaps they possess secret materials which are related to their work. Perhaps he does not regard you as a person who could keep a secret😜.

2⃣ Whenever you suspect anything, you should politely discuss it with your husband in such a manner as to find the truth of the matter out and not in a way of protest. If you are satisfied with it, then, the matter is over. But if you are still suspicious, then, investigate the matter wisely and secretly yourself until the truth is revealed.

If, while investigating, you come across a point that your husband had lied about, then, do not regard it as a proof of his guilt😳. Yes Madam. This is because, despite his innocence, he might have deliberately not been telling the whole truth so that you don't become more suspicious.. Of course, it is not good for one to tell lies, but if your husband made this mistake, then, you should not, in turn, act foolishly.

3⃣ Do not voice your suspicion with anyone you see, since they may be your foes. Enemies always endorse your claims and might even add a few lies to it in order to shatter your life. They may not be foes,, but a bunch of foolish😀, simple, and inexperienced people who reinforce your claims sympathetically.

Consultation is only useful with wise, clever, and genuine sympathizers. If you need to consult, then, find the right people and discuss it with them.

Madam!

Maybe it's because you have failed in many aspects as regards to your duties.. You have placed a gap in his life in which other woman can find a place😀. But do not despair,; there is still time. Yes. Review your attitude, update urself romantically (outward & inward) and act in a manner that would attract your husband towards you.

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