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*"Remaining Silent when your Husband is Angry"*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

A man meets many people while at work and he comes across many problems. Once he returns home from work, he is tired and upon confronting the smallest unpleasant incident at home, sometimes becomes angry and may sometimes transfer his frustrative mood by insulting his family members. Yes. Especially if he comes home with no money in his pockets 😀. This is common to all men. Yes.. Men easily get angry when they are broke pocket-wise.

It's good to remember that, islamically, a man doesn't suppose to insult an outsider not to talk of his family members. But as humans, a man may sometimes shift from right to wrong.

Now,

A wise wife would remain silent towards her husband's ranting and insults. The man would then calm down and would regret his actions.. If he sees that there is no any negative reaction to his anger, he would even apologize sometimes (directly or indirectly). With this approach, the family gets back to a normal situation after only an hour or two.

However,

If the woman of the house did not understand her husband's mood, then she would shout,, swear, curse,, and give negative reaction sharply😃. Yes. And with this approach, the husband and wife might end up fighting and eventually resort to a very bad situation like divorce. Many families are broken up as the result of such little incidents.

This reminds me,

"A man shot himself, his wife and step-mother to death😳. Yes. The couple were believed to have had many rows and arguments right from the start of their marriage. On the night of the incident, the husband had returned home from work, and when the couple started yet another argument, the husband hit his wife, and she decided to go to the police. Suddenly, the man took his gun, killed his wife, his step-mother, and then ended his own life with a bullet'."

My people!

Would it not have been better for the woman to have remained silent at the husband's anger? Would three lives have been ended if the woman had been patient and had not reacted? Which one would you prefer? A few moments of silence or all the grave consequences of getting back at your husband?

Madam!

Do not imagine for a second that the position of the man is being defended here and that he is not guilty. NO! Not at all.. Of course he is guilty. He should not vent his anger out on his family.. In Sha Allah, in the next topic where we will discuss the responsibilities of men, this point will be discussed in more detail but, here, we are saying that a woman should be wise and not react towards her husband's anger, be it right or not. In this situation, the man may not be able to control himself, so it is important that the wife, in order to save her family, remains silent.

Today,

Women usually think that remaining silent, when coming face to face with their husband's anger, would belittle them, and that they would lose their respect. However, the situation is quite the reverse. Yes. A man who sees no reaction when insulting his family members would certainly become remorseful inside him (even if he did not apologize). He would regard his wife as a loving woman, who despite her ability to retaliate, preferred to forgive him. His love for his wife would increase many fold. He would apologize directly or indirectly and thus his wife would earn more respect.

✍The Prophet (PBUH) stated: ' Any woman who tolerates her husband's bad temper, will be rewarded by Allah in the same way that He rewarded Asiyah, daughter of Muzahim" 📚 Hadith

✍"The Prophet (PBUH) stated: 'The best of your women is one who, upon seeing her husband's anger, tells him: 'I submit to your will. Sleep will not pass over my eyes unless you become content with me" 📚 Hadith

TO BE CONTINUED