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 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Every married man has been warned in the Quran and Hadith to avoid getting nearer to extra-marital affair.

The *kick-and-go* groups of husbands, I mean those who does not have intention to marry a lady or woman BUT have an unlawful relationship with them, this is a betrayal of the rights of *Allah* before it is a betrayal of the rights of *your wife*. Yes. The Muslim is bound by a covenant with his Lord, may He be exalted, and what he is required to do is to fulfil that covenant and not break it.

Infact,

Allah (swt) has prohibited adultery in his Holy Book, and the punishment is clear: *“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.”* 📚(Quran chapter 17 verse 32)

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: *“O mankind! Beware of fornication/adultery for it entails six dire consequences: three of them relating to this world and three to the next world. As for the three that are related to this world, they are the following: (1) it removes the glow of one’s face; (2) brings poverty and (3) reduces the life-span... As for its dire consequences in the next world they are: (1) it brings down the wrath of Allah upon the person; (2) subjects him to terrible reckoning, and (3) finally casts him in hell-fire"*📚 (Al-Bayhaqi)

My people!

A man, after marriage, should not go after other women. He must not think of any woman except his wife. He must realize that the innocent pretty babe has left her family to live with him and it is not right for him to pursue selfish shameless desires outside.

A man who is interested in his own happiness, must, after marriage, *give up* naive thoughts and must adapt himself to a new life.

A woman who sees her husband close to other women would feel jealous and would be disheartened. She would lose interest in her house and family. She might retaliate with a similar action 😀 especially if she is not God-fearing type or seek divorce.

It is not proper for a married man to have an eye 🙄 on other women. Ogling and having eyes at other women results in internal anxiety, nervousness and indifference towards one's family.

Allah (swt) states in the Holy Qur'an:

قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ۚ

"Say to the believing men that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts..." 📚(Q24:30).

My brother,

Flirting is regarded as an *illness* by psychiatrists. And an eye which has become used to this habit, would never be satisfied. A man who suddenly sees a woman on the streets or elsewhere, should at once direct his look somewhere else or close his eyeseyes🙈. Yes. He should not persist in staring 🙄 at women. This may be difficult at first, but with a little practice every man can do this.

A man who can close his eyes to other women, would be protected from many corruptions. Instead he would enjoy his family and peace of mind.

My brother,

If you are after happiness, once married, do not take notice of other women. Do not make compliments to other women in front of your wife. Do not say: "I wish I had married Miss.......; i missed many good opportunities......" Such behavior or statements would hurt your wife and she would grow cold towards you and life. She might even try to do the same and talk similarly. As a result your life would lack happiness.

And,

As for men who are maltreating their wives at home because of a lady or a woman they are not yet legally married to, Allah (swt) say......

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك