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 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Man and woman are the two basic pillars of a family, but since men are endowed with special qualities by the order of creation, and because their power of logic is stronger than women's, they are regarded as the guardians of their families. Yes. Allah, (swt) has stated in the glorious Quran:

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ

“Men are the protectors and supervisors of women because of the advantage Allah has given some over others and because they support them from their wealth.

*Family Economy:*

To arrange for alimony of wife is wajib (obligatory) for husband. That is, a man is duty-bound to pay for the expenses of his wife such as food, clothes, house, and medication. And he would be wrong by not keeping to his duties and could be punished by Allah right from this world before that of the hearafter.

My people!

One cannot expect a family to live comfortably without paying bills. Yes. They all need food, medicine, clothes, and a place to live in. However, they (your family) might ask for unnecessary items, in which case, one can disobey them and not conform with such desires.

My brother,

As a wise man, you should spend according to  your earnings. Yes. Allah (swt) say in the Qur'an, surah  At-Talaaq (65:7)

لِيُنفِقْ ذُو سَعَةٍ مِّن سَعَتِهِۦ ۖ وَمَن قُدِرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقُهُۥ فَلْيُنفِقْ مِمَّآ ءَاتَىٰهُ ٱللَّهُ ۚ لَا يُكَلِّفُ ٱللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا مَآ ءَاتَىٰهَا ۚ

"Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it.."

Therefore,

As the head of the family, you must classify the necessary commodities and purchase them in the order of priority.  You must also save for the rainy days.

My brother,

Stinginess is just as bad as overspending. Yes. If a man has more earnings he must make his family more comfortable and provide their essential requirements as much as possible. Yes. Wealth and money are all for spending 😀 and providing the necessities of life, and not for piling up and leaving them behind in this world.

My brother,

The signs of your wealth must be apparent in your family and house. Yes. What is the use of working hard and not spending it on your wife and chicken?  It is hateful to see someone who is able - money wise, but his wife children long for good food and clothes. Children of a stingy person would wait for his death to share his wealth.. If care Is not taken, your family (wife and children) will even pray hard that you die ontime so that, they share what you denied them when you are alive.

My brother,

If the Almighty Allah bestows his blessings onto you, this blessing must be apparent in your family life.

What is the joy in giving your wife and children - *an ordinary rice with oil without ganishers😃*, while you go out to eat *a correct balanced diet Ganished with chicken🐥, fish 🐟 and the rest?* Dont you have conscience?

Some men, out of *weakedness and lack of faith* will even starve their family bcoz of ladies and women outside. Some men who have more than one wife will sideline one of his wives in terms of kind treatment. Is this how you want to leave your life? Don't you fear been resurrected on the day of judgement paralyzed because of injustice you are displaying amongst your wives?

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك