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HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm As-Sabt. 17th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Saturday 25th May 2024).

*_HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE_*. *Bismillah*


Unfortunately, the huge demand of money and so called *Leefe* or clothing for women from young men by some parents has become the main obstacles to get married these days which is against the recommendations of the Prophet Muhammed sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Some parents are failing to know that hasten to offer their daughters out for marriage causes lots of fitnah or trials to the family with possibilities of our young and growing sisters falling into Zina or fornication which is now widespread in our communities today. There is nothing wrong for the so called leefe or to spend on your wife during or before marriage if the brother is wealthy or can afford but it must be his choice of Affordability not instructions from the parents. 


To all parents, please note that our children are a trust from ALLAH and we are accountable for their smooth upbringing till they attain adulthood. If we manage them well till they get married off our hands Alhamdulillah but if we put obstacles on their ways with huge demands of things from brothers before they can be married then we are causing our own fitnah in life. Let's offer our daughters in marriage the Sunnah way with whatever the brother can afford without any unnecessary activities towards the marriage. Please note that if you make marriage expensive, Zina becomes cheap and even free AstaqfirulLah. 


The Prophet is reported to have said that the best of marriages are those with least expenditure and he sallallahu alaihi wasallam warned that if a believing Muslim man comes for your daughter for marriage and you refuse with wrong excuses such as tribal issues or demanding stuff above the man's abilities, then you've actually invited fitnah to the family from ALLAH Astaqfirullah. 


*_May ALLAH keep guiding us all and aid our young Brothers and Sisters into successful marriage life_*. Aameen.

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