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 *Family Managers*

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*Channeling Complaints and Grievances:*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

There is no anyone who does not have problems and grievances with regard to daily life. In fact , everyone likes to have a sympathetic person with whom he can confide and who will listen to his problems. But the point to remember is that - *"there is a time and place for everything"*. One should realize the proper time and occasion to complain.

Some inconsiderate and selfish women do not realize that their husbands are very tired and nervous after a long day's work.. Instead of waiting an hour or two for him to regain his spirits, they start attacking him with a barrage of complaints. Yes. Some women will not even say - *"Welcome my husband before they start to bombard him with negative unpleasant and stories"*. For instance the wife may say: 👇

"You have left me with these damned kids and rushed off.. My mom called and say this and that.. The cooking gas is finished and also kerosine.. My sister brought a sample of her wedding ANKO and i want you to buy the 3 of them for me.. I can't browse since morning due to lack of data.. Ahmad has broken the glass in the door of the front room.. Our daughters have been fighting.. I am going crazy with the noise of the kids outside.. Hasan does not study at all and he has secured poor marks.. I have been working so hard today and I am exhausted... Nobody listens to my cries!.. These kids don't help at all in the house-work.. I wish I didn't have any children at all!.. By the way, your sister was here today. I don't know what was wrong with her; she acted as if I had swallowed her father's inheritance😀.. May God save me from your mother, she has been talking ill about me behind my back and I'm fed up with all of them.. Also, I cut my finger badly with a knife today.. I wish I'd not gone to Muhammad's wedding yesterday. You should have seen Rashid's wife!.  What an outfit!.  Allah should give me the same luck!. Some men really love their wives and buy them beautiful things. They are real husbands.. When Rashid entered, everybody respected him.. It's true that people are only interested in what you're wearing.. What has she got that I haven't? Why should she show off in front of me? Oh yes, she is fortunate to have a husband who loves her, he is not like you"

Habbah Madam!

Men confront hundreds of problems every day. Madam! You do not know what your husband has gone through when he is at work.. You do not know what rude and obnoxious people he has had to deal with all the day.. So, when he comes home, you should not present all of your complaints at the same time.. He should not feel guilty of being a man😀. Be fair and be considerate to him please. Yes. If you,, by grumbling and nagging, add to his worries and anguish, then, he may either start a row or just leave the house and go to unnecessary places or even walk around the streets where more beautiful ladies will see and snatch him from you and u caused it.

Therefore,

Madam❗ For the sake of Allah, give up this habit of complaining at inopportune moments.. Find a suitable time and then present him with your genuine problems, not by complaining, but in a consultative type of way. In this way, you do not create antagonistic feelings in him and the family bonds remain secure

In one of the hadeeth, the Prophet (PBUH) stated that: 👉🏻'The prayers of a woman who teases her husband with her tongue are not accepted by Allah even though she fasts every day, gets up for the acts of worship every night, sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth in the way of Allah. A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband in this way, is the first person who enters hell'." 📚 Authentic Hadith

TO BE CONTINUED

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