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HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE CONTINUES

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm al-ithnayn. 19th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Monday 27th May 2024).

*_HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE CONTINUES_*. Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem. 


Let's continue from the reminder yesterday; please note that our parents errors in delaying our marriages are not a chance to commit crimes against our souls. 

The command to maintain chastity, for those who cannot afford to get married is to be found in the verse in which ALLAH , may HE be exalted, says:

“But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until ALLAH enriches them from HIS bounty”[an-Noor 24:33].


This abstention that is enjoined in this verse is also mentioned in the verses in which ALLAH, May HE be exalted, says 

“Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, ALLAH is Acquainted with what they do” an-Noor 24:30. 

“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way”

[al-Israa’ 17:32],


The Muslim is either able to afford to get married, in which case he must get married, or he is unable to afford the expenses of marriage, in which case he must abstain and remain chaste by means of fasting, lowering the gaze and keeping away from temptation, until ALLAH makes it easy for him to get married. We the men must take some blame for parents making it difficult for their daughters to marry the cheap or easy way because many just fail in taking care of their wife/wives. Please remember that if you want your daughter to get good husband then be a good husband to someone's daughter and remember she is your Muslim sister and no one is perfect so let's be patient with our wives and take good care of them purely to please ALLAH without blaming their shortcomings. 


*_May ALLAH keep guiding us all and aid us to be able to cater for our wives and also marry more if we can, to ease the pressure on our single sisters_*. Aameen.

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