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 *Family Managers*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

"A woman asked the Prophet (PBUH): 'What is the duty of a woman with regard to her husband?' The Prophet (PBUH) stated: 'She must obey him and must not violate his orders with regard to what is not sinful'." 📚 Hadith

Now,

Every institution, factory, and organization needs a responsible controller.. In any sociological unit and organization, cooperation between the staff is important.. However, running the affairs of such a unit needs a person who can coordinate the duties.

Undoubtedly,

There must be a deep understanding, and cooperation among the members of a family, but there must also be a person who can act as COMMANDER-IN-CHIEF with regard to the family matters. Yes. Needless to say, if a family does not enjoy a person who can organize others, it would suffer from disorder and chaos😃. Thus, either the husband must act as the overall Boss and the wife follows, or vice versa.

However,

Since the logical aspect of men is dominant over their emotional aspect, they can be better overall Boss. This is why the Almighty Allah states in the Holy Qur'an: 👇

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ

"Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel above others and because they spend out of their money;..." 📚(Q4:34).

Reflecting on the above Quran verse,

It is in the interest of the members of a family to regard the man as their guardian and the one in charge, and to seek his supervision in their deeds. However, one should not conclude that the status of a woman in the house is belittled. NO! But it is a fact that maintaining the order and discipline in the house requires the management of the husband. And every women, who can think without being biased, would confirm this act.

Sure!

It is true that, the everyday preoccupations of life do not allow man to participate in all the family affairs and that, in practice the wife runs almost all the house according to her desires, but nevertheless, the rank of family overall Boss remains with the man. Yes. And as such he should be respected.

"The Prophet (PBUH) stated: 👉🏻 ' A good woman would pay heed to her husband's wishes and would act according to his desires in matters which are not sinful'." 📚Hadith

Therefore,

Madam! Accept the authority of your husband. Seek his supervision in your household affairs. Do not violate his orders. Do not resist or oppose his participation in the household and family matters.. Do not reject his participation even in those matters that you have more expertise.. Do not practically make him powerless😃 because you help him financially to run the family, or because the economy is bad and he is broke and not giving you 100% of what you need. Teach your children to respect his authority, and ask them to get permission from their father in their affairs and not condemn him before your children.  This way your children will be brought up as obedient to their parents.

*Husbands:*

If you have a wife who shoulders family responsibilities with you regarding finances, do not abuse the privilege by going to marry another wife. Yes. You see a man who is not paying children school fees, house rent or even feeding the family agitating for second wife. This is not Islamic. But if you pay 80% of the bills (for instance) and still have strength to marry another wife, then, the religion of Islam is not against that. Because even first marriage is not compulsory if you can't pay the bills.

Evidence:

وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِۦۗ

"But let those who find not the means for marriage abstain from it and sexual relations until Allāh enriches them from His bounty. 📚An-Nur 24:33

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