Head of the Family* [[---------- 4️⃣ -----------]]

 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Someone once said and I quote:👇

"I don’t forgive people because I’m weak. But i forgive because I’m strong enough to know that human beings make mistakes ignorantly or intentionally”

My brother,

The relationship between husband and wife should be strong and ever-lasting. Rasulullah (PBUH) said:  “The best among you is he who treats the members of his family best.”

Now,

No human being is perfect and all of us make many mistakes. Of course this is true for both men and women. But in the case of women, she may make mistakes by being impolite to her husband, do something against his wish, be harsh to him, or inflict an economic loss on him by being careless, etc.. As a good hubby, forgive and overlook😳. Yes. So that your lord who you offend day and night will forgive you too.

Allah the Exalted said:

ﻭَﻟْﻴَﻌْﻔُﻮﺍﻭَﻟْﻴَﺼْﻔَﺤُﻮﺍۗﺃَﻟَﺎﺗُﺤِﺒُّﻮﻧَنَﻧﻴَﻐْﻔِﺮَﺍلله.لكم.َﺍﻟﻠَّه.ُﻐَﻔُﻮﺭٌﺭَّﺣِﻴﻢٌ

"Let them pardon and overlook. Would you not love for Allah to forgive you? Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."

My brother,

Don't put yourself amongst the group of men who think that they should be strict about their wives' mistakes as they believe this to be the way to prevent the repetition of the same mistake again.

However,

Experience often shows exactly the reverse to be the case. A woman, whose husband is strict with her, may be able to cope with his strictness for a while, but would eventually decide to react against it as a result of frustration. She gradually gets used to his attitude until she becomes indifferent towards it.

A husband who would not practice forgiveness with regard to his wife's mistakes, is practically encouraging her to become impudent and disobedient.

Or he might choose to leave his wife alone and not concern himself with her as much. In this case, his wife, who feels she has won a fight😀, becomes indifferent to her husband's will and wishes. It might reach a point that even when she commits major mistakes deliberately, he keeps silent.. Their marriage then loses its warmth and they might resort to divorce.. Therefore, strictness is not always useful and often results in undesired events.

The best way is to remain moderate and to act logically. Forgive all the trivial and non-deliberate mistakes of your wife. There is no need to shout at someone for a mistake which has happened erroneously.. Of course,  one can always advise others in order to help them not to repeat their mistakes.

People make many mistakes out of ignorance, so it is better to advise them patiently to correct their incorrect deeds or opinions. Therefore, your wife cannot be forced into correcting her mistakes, but instead you should explain her mistake and its harmful effects logically so that she could choose herself not to repeat that action again.. Thus not only your mutual respect remains as before, but it would also prevent the repetition of the same mistakes.

TO BE CONTINUED


سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك