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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

One of the negative characteristics of some people is their speaking ill of each other. This characteristic is not only unpleasant by nature, but it is also a cause of much mischief. Yes. It destroys friendly atmospheres and sows the seed of discord among families, and even separates men from their wives.

Unfortunately,

This characteristic is so widespread among the people that, it does not even seems to be a bad habit any more. Yes. In a gathering, it is rare not to hear gossiping and backbiting. Specially, in a women's gathering, the element of gossip is dominant😃. Yes. When two or more women meet, they start gossiping. They talk slanderously of others as if it is a HALAL competition😀. They sometimes talk about their husbands first. For instance, they discuss their looks or jobs and find fault with the other woman's husband.

One woman would blame the other one for being married to say, a mechanic or a shoemaker or even a primary school teacher😀. If the husband is a driver, she would say: *"Your husband is always traveling, how can you cope with this? " If he is a butcher, she would say: "Your husband always smells of fat😀." If he is not earning much,, she would say: "How do you live with such little money? Why did you even marry him in the first place? Is it not a pity that you,,, with such a beauty, have married such a short and ugly man?😀 How did your parents allow you to do this? Were they fed up with you? By the way,, your husband is such a grim faced 😡 man.. How do you cope living with him?How could you, with all your education and beauty, marry a primary school teacher?"* Funny right?

My people!

Talks of this kind can be heard among a fairly large percentage of the female population of any society. And women who are used to this manner of speaking, as a matter of fact, do not think of the grave consequences which might follow. They do not think that their gossiping or picking up faults could lead to separation of what Allah (swt) has joined together. Such women are truly demons in a human form😀.

These kinds of women gossip for the sake of revenge in order to break up a family. They may do it because of jealousy or self- glorification. They might want to cover their own deficiencies or deceive the simple women. They may want to pretend that they are sympathetic.

From the Hadith:

The Prophet (PBUH) vigorously opposed all aspects of backbiting, even when it appeared in his own family. For example, a woman once visited
Aaisha (RA) and when the woman got up to leave, Aaisha made a sign with her hand indicating to the Prophet that the woman was short in stature. The Prophet immediately chastised her, saying : *“You have backbitten”* and in another narration, *“You have said a saying that if mixed with the sea, it would change its color.”*📚Sunan Abu Dawood
(3/4857)

Therefore,

Madam❗ Now that you have realized the evil intentions behind gossip and if you are interested in your husband and children, then, do not be influenced by the tongues of the human-shaped devils😀. Yes. Do not give in to their false friendship and you should know that, they are not your friends, but your foes who want to see you breaking away from your family.

Stop them immediately when they set out to criticize other people's husband or your husband. Do not be shy to do this to keep your marriage.

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك