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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Before your marriage, you may have had other offers of matrimony. These offers may be from rich, educated, handsome men, etc whom you may have wished to marry. Such expectations were natural before your marriage.. But now that you have chosen your partner and signed a sacred covenant with him to be together for the rest of your life, then, forget the past altogether. Yes. You must put aside your past wishes and forget those past offers.. Do not think of any man except your husband and find peace with him. And If you do otherwise, you will place yourself in a strained mess and condition right from this world to your grave and hearafter.

Madam!

Now that you have agreed to live with your husband, why should you be constantly noticing other man? Why should you compare your husband with others? What do you achieve by looking at other men except putting yourself in a permanently miserable state and cause mental anguish for yourself?

Someone said and i quote:👇🏻

''Whoever leaves his eyes at liberty, will always suffer through his nerves, and will be trapped in a permanent state of envy'."

Madam!

By looking at other men and comparing your husband with them, you will find a man who does not have your husband's faults😳. Yes. You might then think, that man is perfect, because you are not aware of the deficiencies of such a man. Yes. You will begin to regard your marriage as a failure and this thought might lead to disastrous ends.

My Sister!

"A woman once ran away ran away from her home and was arrested by the police. In the police station, the woman said that, after three years of marriage, she gradually felt that, she did not love her husband again😳. Yes. And according to her, she said that: 👉🏻 'I’m used to compare my husband's face with other men and I regretted my marriage with him'😀."

Can u now see why LONG-THROAT is dangerous among the spouses?

Madam!

If you are interested in an everlasting marriage; if you do not want mental distress, and if you want to conduct a normal life, then, stop being selfish and forget your vain hopes. Yes. Do not make compliments for other men. And do not think of any man other than your husband.

Do not think to yourself that: 👇

"I wish I had married so and so;"

"I wish my husband looked like.......;"

"I wish my husband's job was.......;"

"I wish.....," "I wish......." "I wish......."

Why should you imprison yourself with these thoughts? Why should you upset the foundations of your marriage? If any of those wishes had come true, how would you know that you would have been more satisfied? Are you sure that the wives of those so-called "faultless" men are satisfied with them?

Madam!

If your husband suspects that you show interest in other men, he would be disappointed, disheartened and would lose interest in you. Yes. You must not cut jokes with other men or keep company with them, bcoz Men are so sensitive that they cannot even tolerate their wives to show an interest in a picture of another man.

Madam!

Zina (adultery, fornication) does not refer only to penetration, rather there is the zina of the hand, which is touching that which is forbidden, and the zina of the eyes, which is looking at that which is forbidden. This evident in the Hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah (r.a.):

"The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the tongue is speaking, one may wish and desire, and the private parts confirm that or deny it.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5889; 📚 Muslim, 2657)

This is why,

The religion of Islam say "it is not permissible for the Muslim to long for the things that lead to zina , such as touching and looking prohibited things", for all these things lead to the greater evil.

TO BE CONTINUED