Head of the Family* [[---------- 3️⃣ -----------]]

 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

As head of the family, you are advised to avoid transfer of aggression and finding faults unnecessarily. Yes. Your Madam is not the reason why economic melt-down has decended on you. This is what everybody is battling with now - LACK OF MONEY😀 - She is equally not the reason why you are offended outside your home.

Why would you come home and transfer all frustration to the innocent person by coming home to look for faults to enable you pick quarrels with members of uour famly? Is dat fair?

In the Qur'an: Al-An'aam (6:164), Allah (swt) say:

وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَىٰ ۚ

"And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another" 📚(6:164),

Honestly,

Some men are constantly seeking excuses to pick up fault with everything. They moan at every trivial matter: - "Why is this table dirty? Why is the lunch not ready? Why is that vase here? Have I not said before that this and that should not be on the floor?" etc...

Some men take this attitude so far that it causes rows and quarrels within their family, and sometimes a family break-down as a result of their behaviour.

Of course!

We are not saying that men do not have the right to tell their wives what to do and what not to do.. No!. If a man wants to successfully participate in the affairs of the house, then he should do so in a calculated manner. Yes. As a matter of fact, since a man does not have enough time to participate in all the matters regarding his house and because he *lacks the necessary expertise* in this connection, then, it is to his advantage to leave the housework to his wife.. A man should leave his wife at liberty with regard to running the house😳. Yes. Men can, however, *under the pretext of consultation and not forcefully* , remind their wives about certain points. Oonce a wise woman finds out her husband's wishes about any matter, she would try to conform with them. Therefore, a man and a woman who care for each other and their family, can through talking together in a kind manner, reach many agreements on all matters.. And in this way, most women are prepared to conform with their husbands' occasional demands.

But,

If his participation takes the form of picking up fault and constant moaning, then, the housewife gets used to them and consequently this attitude becomes a *usual affair* from which nothing useful would result.

My brother!

A woman with a frequently moaning husband would not take him seriously😀. She may even ignore his proper and important points of concern.. She would reason for herself "Why should I waste my energy, if my husband is not ever satisfied with my work? ".  And not only would she ignore her husband's criticism, but might even take retaliatory measures😀. This is when their house turns into a battlefield. Yes. Constant criticism of each other would then prepare the ground for separation and thus a family unit breaks down.. In this scenario, the woman is not to be blamed because even a wise and patient wife *would run out of patience* as a result of continuously humiliating attitude of her husband.

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك