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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

If a person is generous and charitable with the wealth that he has acquired from hard work, the appreciation and notice given in response to such acts will warm that person's inner feelings and give him a feeling of accomplishment. Yes. Acts of goodwill may then, become second nature to the person, whereby it becomes a habit to spend and share one's wealth for those in need.

However,

If the acts of goodwill are taken for granted and unappreciated, the person may lose the desire and drive to do good. Yes.. It would be natural for a person to conclude that it was a waste to give away his hard earned money when it was unappreciated.

Madam of the House!

Gratitude and appreciation are admirable characteristics in a person and it is the secret by which one may attract charitable acts. Yes. Even Allah has mentioned that gratitude for His blessings are conditional on the continual perpetuation of his grace upon mankind.

Evidence:

وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ

"And when your Lord made it known, - If you are grateful, would certainly give to you more, and if you are ungrateful, My chastisement is fully severe" 📚(Q14:7)

Madam!

Your husband is also human. Yes. Like everyone else, he enjoys being appreciated.l. He is willing to support his family and regards it as a moral and lawful obligation. And when he is thanked and appreciated for doing his duty, those duties no longer seem to be a burden to him.

Whenever he buys for you and the children or anything at all for the family, be happy and thank him. Yes. Even if you do not like the gift or the items. This is because, men do make un-intentional mistakes in choosing material gifts for their wives.. Sometimes, they used to feel like their wife will be happy if they get her this or that. So Madam, PRETEND as if you like the gift 100%, then after some hours or days, use style & wisdom to let him know about your best colours or tell him to take you along to enable you choose the best you desire.

But,

Some women, upon sighting the item or gift....🙆‍♀️, condemnation upon condemnation!. Some women may even throw it on the ground😀.. Habbah Madam!. How would your husband use his money to buy what he knows you would not like?

By showing your appreciation for anything he does, you will make your husband feel good and rewarded for the trouble he has taken before getting them.

Be careful that you do not take his duties for granted and become indifferent towards his contributions to the family.. Yes. He may become disheartened about the welfare of the family.. He may prefer to spend his money elsewhere or on himself.

Madam!

If a friend or relative or neighbours presented you with a small gift, you would thank them repeatedly as if you are given license to entering paradise😀 but if it's your husband, you take it to be his duties, therefore, he doesn't deserve to be thanked repeatedly.

Madam!

It is only natural and fair to show appreciation to your husband for his consideration and thoughtfulness.. Do not think that you would be belittling yourself by demonstrating your appreciation. Yes. On the contrary, you would be loved and cared for more and more, because you appreciate the efforts of your husband whereas snobbism and selfishness can only lead towards great misfortunes.

TO BE CONTINUED


سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك