Heartfelt Reminder to Married Men*

 *Heartfelt Reminder to Married Men*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

It is a sad truth that for many Muslim men, the last time they sincerely told their wives *"I love you,"* *"You are stunning,"* or *"You are one in a million"* was *before the wedding or a few weeks after it*. Like a candle that burns brightly at first but flickers into darkness, the warmth of our words fades with time. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was known to express love and admiration for his wives. He would playfully race with Aisha (RA) and praise her, saying, *"This is for that!"* 📚(Sunan Abu Dawood).

If the best of mankind (ﷺ) showed such affection, who are we to withhold kind words from our own wives? 

Imagine this: Your wife spends time choosing a beautiful outfit, adorning herself in a way that would make any outsider pause and say, *"Masha’Allah, she looks radiant!"* Yet, when she walks past you or sits beside you, *you remain silent—unmoved, unimpressed, as if she were invisible*. How heartbreaking it must be for her to seek validation from strangers because her own husband, the one whose opinion matters most, *acts like a stone*

This reminds me,

A married woman caught cheating on her husband narrated:

*"I have a husband who never and doesn't care to give me a compliment each time I dress good to make him happy. I was doing this for long without getting worried about his deliberate unnoticeable behavior. One day, I went to work and a new worker was posted to our work place. This man will always make sure he makes compliment about my outlook. Infact, in the first place, I used to insult him and giving him warnings, but this man never stopped doing that. Gradually, I began to keep quiet if he makes compliment about my outlook. Gradually, his compliment began to sweet me because my husband never bothered to give me any sweet compliment. This strange man's compliment continue to sweeten me to the extent of smiling if he makes the compliment. To cut the long story short, if come to a point where if I get to work place work and this man hasn't seen me, I used to look for him and before I knew what is really happening, I have fallen in love with him."*

My Brother,

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: *"The best of you are those who are best to their wives."* 📚(Tirmidhi). Being "best" is not just about providing; it is about *noticing, appreciating, and uplifting her spirit*. A simple *"Masha’Allah, you look beautiful"* or *"That color suits you so well"* can light up her entire day.

Brothers, let us be honest—how often do we glance at female strangers, women who *cannot even compare to our wives in beauty, character, or piety*? Yet, we fail to appreciate the woman who wakes up early to serve us, who remains loyal, who dresses modestly yet beautifully *just for us*.

*"A man who searches for diamonds in the desert will return home to realize he already had one in his pocket."* 

Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:  *"And live with them in kindness."* 📚(Quran 4:19) 

Kindness is not just in actions—it is in *words, in gazes, in acknowledgment*. If we do not appreciate our wives, Shaytan will find ways to make her seek appreciation elsewhere.

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