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 *Married Women*

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*Reasonable and Resourceful When Times Are Hard*

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

*"A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."* – This timeless proverb reminds us that trials are part of life, and they test our patience, wisdom, and faith. As Muslim women, we are blessed with the divine role of being the pillars of our homes, the comforters of our husbands, and the nurturers of our children. Yet, when economic hardship strikes, some women begin to look down on their husbands, forgetting that wealth is a test from Allah, just as poverty is. 

My sister,

"The man is the shepherd of his household, and he is responsible for his flock." 📚(Hadith, Bukhari & Muslim)

Now,

While Islam places the primary responsibility of provision on the husband, it does not forbid a wife from assisting when times are tough. However, contributing financially should never make you feel superior or make you belittle your husband. Remember, *"Pride comes before a fall."* A man’s worth is not measured by his wallet but by his character, faith, and efforts. 

Would you respect the sun only when it shines, or the moon only when it’s full? No. Likewise, respect your husband in times of abundance and in times of scarcity. 

*Hardship is Temporary, But Your Marriage Should Be Eternal*

In the Quran chapter 94 verse 6 Allah (swt) say: *"Verily, with hardship comes ease."* 📚(Quran 94:6) – Economic struggles are not permanent. Many great men faced poverty before Allah blessed them with abundance. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and his family endured years of hardship, yet Khadijah (RA) stood by him with unwavering support. 

Nana Aisha (RA) was once asked about situations when times are hard. She replied:👉🏻 "There used to be times when we spend 3 months without cooking. She was asked: what were u people surviving on? She (RA) replied : we used to survive on water and dates.📚(Authentic hadeeth)

Muslim Sisters,

Ask yourself: *"Would you uproot a tree because it didn’t bear fruit in one season?"* No. You water it, nurture it, and wait for its season of harvest. Similarly, be patient with your husband. Divorce should never be the first option when money is tight.

At least,

Instead of complaining about what you lack, focus on maximizing what you have. A wise woman knows how to stretch a little into much, how to turn simple meals into feasts of gratitude, and how to find joy in simplicity. Trust in Allah’s provision and work together as a team. *"Two hands are better than one."* When you and your husband combine efforts with patience and gratitude, Allah will open doors you never imagined. 

My Sister,

Shaytan loves to sow discord, especially during tough times. He will whisper, *"You deserve better,"* *"Your husband is weak,"* or *"Leave and find a richer man."* But remember: *"The grass is not always greener on the other side."* Many women who chased wealth lost the love, respect, and stability they once had.

Madam,

Will you be the one who crumbles under pressure, or the one who holds things together with wisdom and faith during tough times? True strength is not in dominating your husband but in supporting him. *"Behind every great man is a great woman."* 

Instead of demanding more from him, ask Allah to give your husband more. Instead of comparing your husband to others, thank Allah for what you have. And instead of letting hardship divide you, let it strengthen your bond. 

To be continued