The signs of good character are in ten qualities

 *Yūsuf ibn Asbāṭ رحمه الله said:*

*علامة حسن الخلق عشرة أشياء:*

١ - قلة الخلاف.  

٢ - وحسن الإنصاف.  

٣ - وترك طلب العثرات.  

٤ - وتحسين ما يبدو من السيئات.  

٥ - والتمـاس المعذرة.  

٦ - واحتمال الأذى.  

٧ - والرجوع بالملامة على نفسه.  

٨ - والتفـرغ بمعرفة عيوب نفسه دون عيوب غيره.  

٩ - وطلاقة الوجه.  

١٠ - ولطـف الكلام.

*The signs of good character are in ten qualities:*

1. Rarely arguing.  

2. Treating others fairly.  

3. Abandoning seeking out others’ faults.  

4. Seeking to rectify and improve any evil qualities which appear.  

5. Seeking excuses for people.  

6. Bearing harm.  

7. Blaming oneself.  

8. Occupying yourself with awareness of your own faults and not with the faults of others.  

9. Having a cheerful face.  

10. Being mild in speech.

*[فيض القدير لأحمد عبد الرؤوف المناوي (4/413)]*  

1. *Avoid unnecessary disputes* – Arguing often brings more harm than good. Peaceful interactions reflect wisdom and maturity.

2. *Practice fairness* – Treating others justly, even when it’s difficult, shows strong moral character.

3. *Don't look for others’ mistakes* – Being preoccupied with others’ faults leads to arrogance and division.

4. *Work on your own flaws* – Constant self-improvement is a sign of sincerity and humility.

5. *Give excuses to others* – Don’t rush to blame; assume the best and find reasons to excuse others' behavior.

6. *Be patient with harm* – Enduring harm with patience strengthens the soul and builds resilience.

7. *Hold yourself accountable* – Instead of blaming others, look inward and take responsibility.

8. *Focus on your own faults* – Awareness of one’s own shortcomings leads to humility and personal growth.

9. *Smile and be cheerful* – A pleasant face lifts hearts and strengthens relationships.

10. *Speak gently* – Kind speech calms tensions and builds connection.

These are timeless qualities of good character, deeply rooted in Islamic adab and prophetic guidance.

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