Remarrying Issue* [[-- Part Two --]]

 *Remarrying Issue*

[[-- Part Two --]]
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Even when a man or woman contributed to issues which resulted to his or her divorce, at least, "Mistakes" are the best teacher. Yes. Every relationship, good or bad, teaches us too many lessons in life which helps nurture our future relationships.

After all,

Everything that happens in the universe happens only by the decree of Allah, so marriage and whether it comes sooner or later, or is easy or difficult, or whether one's marriage last forever or one's marriage is covered with difficulties leading to divorce, is all subject to the decree of Allah (swt).

The bitter truth is,

80% of divorced Women are not bad but a victim of circumstances. Yes. What happened in most cases is mismatch of two different people who got together.

Now,

Continuation of the episode - as promised:

*Rules for a Successful Remarriage:*

*Number 2:*

Second marriages are not a bed of roses

The key to a successful and fruitful second marriage is embracing the hard times rather than running away from them. Yes. In every relationship, there comes hail and shine. Particularly, second marriages are not always picture-perfect and free of little conflicts here and there. So, to ensure that your second marriage lasts, the next thing on our preventing 2nd divorce advice list is about confronting issues and dealing with them without hurting your partner.

👉 “No fatigue, nor disease, nor anxiety, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that” 📚(Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

So,

Instead of taunting each other and passing on blaming remarks, make an effort to be more empathetic and understanding toward one another. While it might be a tough thing to do, it is not impossible, and the results are definitely worth the effort. Do not underestimate the power of been reasonable especially in hard times. Yes. Life is full of ups and downs.. And the wheels of fortune do not always rotate according to our desires.. Today is sweet, tomorrow is bitter.

*Sometimes In Prophet Muhammad's House (pbuh):*

Nana Aisha (r.a) was once asked about situations when times are hard, she replied:👉🏻 *"There used to be times when we spend 3 months without cooking. She was asked: - what were you people surviving on? She replied: we used to survive on water and dates"*. 📚(From authentic hadith)

Subhananllah!

Allah (swt) made this to happen in our beloved prophet's house so that, it will serve as a lesson for all of us.. So Madam! -  please if you don't want second divorce, don't add to his problems by having disagreeable behaviours.  Pls support him financially if u have.. And if u don't have, please manage what is available, and show him more love at this time.

Also,

Avoid comparing your new relationship with the previous one by mentioning to your new spouse that - *"this is my first time of experiencing so so & so... To me, your new spouse is not the cause of your separation with your ex and should not be used to pay the price of your previous divorce.

And,

Every spouse is blessed in one way or the other. Yes. Maybe your new spouse is good on bed, very religious, gentle and accommodating.. While your so-called ex may be very weak on bed, easy-provoking and or not religious.

To be continued...