Remarrying Issue* [[--- Part 9 ---]]

 *Remarrying Issue*

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*Stepchildren Issues*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

While children act as binding agents in first marriages (even rocky ones), stepchildren are often the dissolving agents in subsequent marriages. And children from a prior marriage, if care is not taken, make subsequent marriages even more complicated😃. Yes. The more children the more complications.

But,

Abu Hurairah (r.a) reports that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) stated: *”Whoever caresses the head of an orphan (in affection), solely for the sake of Allah, a good deed will be written to his account for every hair over which he passed his hand, and whoever treated an orphan (boy or girl) with goodness and kindness, he and I will be close to each-other in Heaven as these two fingers” The Prophet made a gesture with his fingers ✌🏼 as already explained"*. 📚 Authentic hadith

Muslim Faithful,

A child is a child, irrespective of whether you are the biological parent or a stepparent.

Now,

*Problems Caused by Stepchildren No 3:* Financial Stress

When many of us are looking for a partner, and thinking of getting married, there is some kind of standard narrative at play.  Meet someone attractive and fun, someone who you really enjoy spending time with. A person who shares your values and with whom you can see spending the rest of your life.  Perhaps even having a family.

But,

Where there are stepchildren involved, how many people do:

(1) Decide how you and your new spouse will manage household finances before marriage?.

(2) Discuss Key Money Issues Before Bringing Stepkids Into The Mix?

(3) Discuss Who pays which bills?

My People,

It’s perfectly understandble to prefer to marry a person with no kids, but if you actually marry someone with kids from previous marriage, then, you need to embrace them and grab countless rewards, because Allah (swt) says in Surah Al-Kahf 18:110

"...فَمَن كَانَ يَرْجُوا۟ لِقَآءَ رَبِّهِۦ فَلْيَعْمَلْ عَمَلًا صَٰلِحًا ...."

"So whoever would hope for the meeting with his Lord -  let him/her do righteous work...." 📚Al-Kahf 18:110

Now,

*Deciding how you and your new spouse will manage household finances:*

Couples that function the best in marriage have made their expectations clear from the outset. But many couples don't have those discussions and are operating on auto-pilot. "Lots of couples operate on what they assume in their head.

*Stepchildren Custody Agreement:*

Newly married spouses are advised to create time to discuss child custody agreements in order to clearly spell out useful informations such as the actual number of stepchildren and where they will stay and who will.....

To be continued...