Remarrying Issue* [[--- Part 6 ---]] ------------------ *Stepchildren Issues

 *Remarrying Issue*

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*Stepchildren Issues*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Marrying someone with children from a previous relationship can take a toll on your new marriage. Yes. When someone that you care about criticizes your child or their successes, good feelings erode and, over time, can erode good feelings about each other and about the marriage.

But,

As Muslims, we learned from our beloved Prophet - Muhammad (pbuh) to invest heavily on children's upbringing so that they become righteous and God-fearing, so that even after our demise, we will continue to receive rewards until the day of judgement.

Remember,

A child is a child, irrespective of whether you are the biological parent or a stepparent. Yes. The most important thing is - *"Are you the one whose efforts, pockets and time nurse the child to become righteous?"* -  if yes, then Maa sha Allah Alhamdulillah!

Evidence:

Abu Hurraira (RA) reported that the prophet (pbuh) as saying : When a person dies, his/her actions discontinues, except for three things that will benefit the deceased in the grave and the hereafter.. One of which is *A pious child who prays for the deceased*. 📚 Authentic hadeeth

This is why,

As a brother or sister, you need to invest wisely on your children ESPECIALLY PEOPLE'S CHILDREN. Yes, people's children

*The Story of Halima Sa’ddiyah:*

In the year in which Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was born, the Bedouin clan of Sa’d arrived in Makkah. Among their women was Halima, who was accompanied by her husband and baby son. They had always suffered great poverty, but this year had been particularly difficult because of famine. The donkey that carried her to Makkah was so weak from hunger that it often stumbled. Halima’s baby cried all the time because she could not feed him properly, and their old she-camel failed to produce milk.

All the women of the clan of Sa’d found a child to take back with them, but not Halima. There was one baby left in Makkah, the orphaned Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). As it was customary for the baby’s father to pay the wet-nurses, none of the women would take the orphan. Halimah said to her husband, “I don’t like that I should be the only woman of our clan to return without a baby, I want to take that orphan”. Her husband agreed, adding, *“Perhaps it will be that Allah will bless us because of him.”*

She said, “When I went to get him he was wearing a woolen dress, whiter than milk. A fragrance of musk spread from him. He lay on his back in sleep, underneath him a piece of green silk. I did not like to wake him because of his beauty and grace, but I came close to him and put my hand on his chest. He smiled and opened his eyes. I kissed him between his eyes and put him to my right breast which gave him all the milk he wanted. Then I placed him on the left, but he refused. That was the way he always was. After he was satisfied, I gave my son his fill. As soon as I brought him to my camp, both my breasts began pouring milk. By Allah’s grace, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) drank until he was satisfied, as did his brother. My husband went to our old camel for milk, and lo, it was full. He milked enough for both of us to drink our fill and we had a wonderful night. Later my husband said, “Oh Halima, it looks like you have picked a blessed soul. We spent the first night in blessings and bounties, and Allah continues to give us more and more ever since we chose him.” (pbuh).

To be continued...