Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 179* *PATIENCE, FORGIVENESS AND UNITY ARE KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL & HAPPY MARRIAGE

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 179*

*PATIENCE, FORGIVENESS AND UNITY ARE KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL & HAPPY MARRIAGE*

 Getting married is very easy, getting married to the right person who will understand you, who will bring you closer to Allah and who will be with you at least 80% of the time is a challenge.

Getting married to the right person who won't abuse you, harm you emotionally and spiritually and drive you away from your deen and Allah Himself is very difficult.

Very few men/women out there, who are serious about their obligations and their fear of Allah with regards to their spouse. Others are just using each other for halal sex but their love, compassion and sincere good intentions for each other are dead.

Of Course before we talk about finding the right spouse it is also important to remember to learn and become the right spouse for someone else.

If you want your spouse to be certain way, make sure you have all those qualities as well inshaAllah :)

May Allah renew love, taqwa, compassion and care in the hearts of married Muslim men and women for His sake and remove selfishness and self serving attitude from their hearts. Ameen

 Marriage is to know that u will be in hard times, poverty, hardships, arguing & being patient in going through many difficulties.

 

FORGIVENESS AND 

UNITY

No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That’s the spirit of FORGIVENESS.

Even though the two eyes don’t see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That’s UNITY.“

May the Lord grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness.

A couple that wishes to have a successful relationship must understand each other’s needs. A husband must take into account that a woman’s needs and expectations are different than a man’s. Great intimacy can only be achieved if a woman finds a complete, fulfilling relationship. So what are women looking for in a marriage?

Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love them, cherish them, adore them, be romantic with them, and make them feel beautiful and wanted. They want someone who will be attracted to them emotionally through their personality, and attracted to them physically through their bodies.

A woman wants a partner who will strive together with her through this life; laughing and rejoicing through the good times, and sticking by each other and supporting each other through the bad times.

She wants a man strong in his deen who can stand up and take the responsibility of the household, and help raise the children in accordance with Islam.

A woman wants her husband to be her friend, companion, and soul mate.

Any good husband must realize that a woman’s primary need is emotional. He must take into account the prophetic tradition “The best of you are those who are best to their wives,” [Sahih al-Bukhari], and then strive to be the best to his wife.

Men have been assigned the responsibility by Allah to take care of their wives, and this entails treating them with love and respect, and striving to make them happy. If a husband can fulfil his wife's primary needs, not only will Allah reward him, his wife will be content with him, and together the couple’s life will be more harmonious. Moreover, when a woman’s needs are fulfilled she will be more willing to fulfil her husband’s needs, bi iznillaah.

The best way to satisfy a woman’s emotional needs is to listen to her and respond to her with compassion. By listening to her intently, with your undivided attention, and taking a genuine interest in what she has to say, she will feel loved, cherished and important. Realize that when she approaches you with her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want solutions, she just wants sympathy and understanding.

May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) bless all our marriages. Ameen

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)