Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 181* *HOW TO LEARN TO ASSIST AT HOME: MEN VERSION* (Copied)

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 181*

*HOW TO LEARN TO ASSIST AT HOME: MEN VERSION* (Copied)

When it comes to rendering assistance with home chores, our Messenger PBUH is our role model. He would sit among Him wives and assist in the best way possible. Husbands who help at home often get criticised by family members or even friends. However, it is not shameful to assist your wife at home, in fact, you are not the first to do it, Prophet Muhammad did it before you. Note that when you help her she loves you more, she respects you more, she also feels the need to help you in areas Where it goes you fail, she gets time to rest and she can have more time to handle your kids or other domestic activities. 

*How I learned to assist at home:*

1. I follow up on things happening inside my home, I try to learn by watching, for example, kitchen activities. You can easily learn how to wash the utensils by just looking. At times, I visit the kitchen to disturb her, and I seize the opportunity to learn how she is doing it. 

2. For the children's part, I ask how I can change children's diapers when gets wet. I follow her to the toilet to learn how to clean the kids when they poop. It is disgusting though. But doing disgusting things make her believe in you and love you in the process. 

3. For feeding the kids, that is a normal process. Simply, sit and eat with them. Depending on the age, learn which spoon fits the mouth of your child, learn the measurement of the milk and water to be added. Learn when you should stop feeding the child, also learn when the child gets hungry. That is even easier, bcos you just need to time yourself. When is the next time to feed the child. This not only makes your wife happy, but it also makes your children love you more and feel proud of their father. 

4. At times you need to surprise her by taking over the kitchen, maybe while she was sleeping or away. Youtube can help you learn a quick recipe, as there are many of them online. That's how you can learn to cook on your own. And note that, one of the things that make women crazy about their husband is getting breakfast, lunch or dinner from him. 

Let me use my last statement to say this. Sisters just because he is helping it does not mean he should always do it. And it does not mean he is your houseboy. And if for once he does not want to do it, don't perceive it as being insubordinate. It is not his work, he is only helping. 

Let me remind us of a hadith in which the Prophet says, the best of men are those who are most kind and most humble to their wives. (Bukhari & Muslim).   

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)