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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 186* *A TRAVELLING HUSBAND. OUTCOMES AND SOLUTIONS

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 186*

*A TRAVELLING HUSBAND. OUTCOMES AND SOLUTIONS*

Even though this matter has been addressed once in this group, but i like to reiterate bcos of a disturbing message that i received today. A sister complained that since she got married 4 years ago, she only saw her husband 16 times in 4 years. He lives far away and he doesn't come. One day he visited, she caught him talking to another woman on phone telling her how he missed sex with her. Which means all this time he was never alone there. So as a result, she too started having many extramarital affairs too. But now she is in a total mess and she likes me to tell her what to do. What I told her is not the reason why I m writing this. 

I m writing to tell those men who stay far away from to please reconsider their position. I know it is difficult taking your wives to some places, but At least if you can't take her with you then come back home after every 4 months and stay with her according to the prophetic teachings l. Rasoulillah peace be upon him whenever he sent governors or envoys to rule in one country, he would make sure they return to their wives after 4 months (Bukhari). Which means it is haram for you to stay away from home for a long time. By doing so, you are putting yourself in difficult situations which can lead to zina. Or you are giving your wife an opportunity to commit zina. Alhamdulillah, i had the opportunity to listen to many married women who said they started talking to strangers bcos they were bored at home. Some even claimed they have bastard children from their illicit relationships, all as a result of negligence of husbands. 

My dear Brothers, wallahi you will account for this in the day of judgment. When you put her in a difficult situation that exposes her to committing zina it is not only her in trouble, you are in trouble too. As for the sisters, i always advise that when you started to feel bored let your husband know that you are in a critical situation. If you cannot, inform your parents and let them inform him or his parents. If he cannot change then it is better for you to quit the marriage rather than selling your Jannah on the street or social media (zina). If divorce is not an option, then get a job or enrol in a school, or engage in volunteer works where you will keep your mind busy so that you don't think negatively. If that cannot be done, then start a business or handwork from home. 

May Almighty Allah guide such men and make them see the reality of how much they are hurting their wives. And may Allah save those women victims from such experiences. Amin. 


{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}


"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)

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