Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 189* *THE ROOTS OF MARITAL PROBLEMS

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 189*

*THE ROOTS OF MARITAL PROBLEMS*

Marriage is supposed to be a form of ibadah as prescribed by Allah to mankind. unfortunately, some people do not understand the value and the blessings in it. Today I want to address some of the root causes of marriage problem in our societies. They are as follows: 

🔦 Forced Marriage - Most forced marriages fail, bcos they were not build based on love and understanding. When couples refuse to get along, things start to go sore. Therefore, avoid forced marriages, it is haram to force someone into a marriage they don't like. This is one of the trends during Jahiliyya. The messenger prohibits it. 

🔦 Arranged marriage - Not as bad as the first, yet, it is supposed to be good, but when couples can't get along due to high expectations they turn against each other. Some arranged marriages work, but many fail, though some couples don't show its failure in order to please parents, but, at long last, it suffocates them. So let them get along and decide whether they want to live together. Continuity is very important in marriage 

🔦 Parents involvement - When parents always get involved in problems related to their children, rather than making things right, they end up destroying the marriage. As a parent, respect yourself and stay within your limits. 

🔦 Sin against Allah - When couples use their marriage to achieve personal gains or harm one another intentionally, surely Allah will remove his blessings. Therefore, marriage is an ibada, not a business model. 

🔦 Bad company - Bad friends with bad habits can destroy your marriage. Most of them are inexperienced, don't always take their advice. So beware of this. 

🔦 Dishonesty - When dishonesty gets into your marriage life, then it is a matter of time before it destroys you. 

🔦 Selfishness - When everything is about you and you alone, she has no right, or he has no right, then you will land in trouble. Your partner should always benefit equally from the union.  

🔦 Suspicion - One of the most dangerous and most poisonous elements in a marriage. The very day you lose trust for one another, that's the end. It is a matter of time before you separate.

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)