Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam Episode 9

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Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam

Episode 9

Preferred Times for Sex

Three Opinions

1. The best time for sex is anytime, be it day or night, when one is relaxed and the mood for sensual relations are prevailing in both spouses.

2. Some scholars consider the latter part of the night to be the best time for sex. This was also the usual practice of Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم ,although he is reported to have slept with his wives at other times as well.Abu lshaaq relates, "I asked al-Aswad ibn Yazid regarding what Sayyida 'A'isha informed him about the Tahajjud of Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم . She ('Ā'ishah)said:

"He would sleep in the early part of the night, and wake up in the latter part [to offer Salaah]. If he then wished to fulfil his desire with his wife, he would fulfil his desire, and then sleep." (Sahih Muslim 739)

For those who find it difficult to wait for the end of the night, a practical solution is to eat a light meal in the early part of the evening. In this way, the stomach will not be full when having coitus in the earlier part of the night.

3. Sexual relations on Friday and the night preceding Friday is also recommended and some consider this virtuous. Imam Abu Hamid al-Ghazali states in his renowned Ihya Ulum al-Din that according to some scholars, sex on Friday and the night preceding it is recommended (mustahab) due to the Hadith narrated by Aws Thaqafi-al Aws ibn regarding the reward of one bathing and causing the spouse to bathe on Fridays, quoted earlier. 

"Whoever causes [his spouse] to bathe and bathes himself on Friday, then goes out early [for Friday prayers], walks and does not ride, and takes his seat close to the imam and listens attentively, and does not indulge in futility, will earn the reward of a year's fasting and praying at night for every step he takes."

(See: Ithaaf al-Saadaat al-Muttaqin bi Sharh, Ihya 'Ulum al-Din 6:175)