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Head of the Family* [[---------- 6️⃣ -----------]]

 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 6️⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Islam allows polygamy and permits men, under specific circumstances, to have at most four wives at any given time. But, Islam does not have the intention of siding with men and encouraging them to overindulge in sexual desires and debauchery or to overlook the rights of women and *oppress* them. Rather, Islam’s aim is to uphold a range of women’s natural rights—the right to marriage, forming a family, and having and rearing legitimate children. *Conditions for Polygamy:* Islam tolerates polygamy; however, it has placed various conditions for it that, in practice, are very difficult to observe for the majority of men going for polygamy today. These are as follows: 1⃣. Possession of sufficient financial resources to provide all expenses of each family - feeding,, accommodation, health, clothing etc From the Hadith, Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri reported: I said, “O Messenger of Allah,...

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 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 5️⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Every married man has been warned in the Quran and Hadith to avoid getting nearer to extra-marital affair. The *kick-and-go* groups of husbands, I mean those who does not have intention to marry a lady or woman BUT have an unlawful relationship with them, this is a betrayal of the rights of *Allah* before it is a betrayal of the rights of *your wife*. Yes. The Muslim is bound by a covenant with his Lord, may He be exalted, and what he is required to do is to fulfil that covenant and not break it. Infact, Allah (swt) has prohibited adultery in his Holy Book, and the punishment is clear: *“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.”* 📚(Quran chapter 17 verse 32) The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: *“O mankind! Beware of fornication/adultery for it entails six dire consequences: three of them relating...

HOW TO REPAIR OUR WEAK RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR CREATOR

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawmul Jumuat. 23rd day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Friday 31st May 2024). *_HOW TO REPAIR OUR WEAK RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR CREATOR_*. BismilLah.  Assalaamu Alaikum WarahmatulLah brothers and sisters in Islam. We thank and praise ALLAH for HIS guidance and blessings to be part of this blessed day. As Muslims, it's important we strive to increase our eemaan.  The most effective way is to learn or study the Qur'an. Recite it regularly and ponder on the meanings. Tranquillity then descends, and our hearts become soft and re-establish its connection to it Creator. To get optimum benefits, remind yourself that ALLAH is speaking to you in the Quran. People are described in different categories in the Quran; think of which one you find yourself in. If you can't recite or understand the Quran, please  start learning how to recite it. You should also try listening to tafseer regularly to know what your creator wants from you and for you.  Realize the...

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 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 4️⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Someone once said and I quote:👇 "I don’t forgive people because I’m weak. But i forgive because I’m strong enough to know that human beings make mistakes ignorantly or intentionally” My brother, The relationship between husband and wife should be strong and ever-lasting. Rasulullah (PBUH) said:  “The best among you is he who treats the members of his family best.” Now, No human being is perfect and all of us make many mistakes. Of course this is true for both men and women. But in the case of women, she may make mistakes by being impolite to her husband, do something against his wish, be harsh to him, or inflict an economic loss on him by being careless, etc.. As a good hubby, forgive and overlook😳. Yes. So that your lord who you offend day and night will forgive you too. Allah the Exalted said: ﻭَﻟْﻴَﻌْﻔُﻮﺍﻭَﻟْﻴَﺼْﻔَﺤُﻮﺍۗﺃَﻟَﺎﺗُﺤِﺒُّﻮﻧَنَﻧﻴَﻐْﻔِﺮَﺍلله.لكم.َﺍﻟﻠَّه.ُﻐَ...

TOLERANCE WITH PEOPLE IN ISLAM

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Arba'a. 22nd day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Thursday 30th May 2024). *_TOLERANCE WITH PEOPLE IN ISLAM_*. BismilLah.  The scholars of prophetic narrations understood tolerance to be a very important concept in Islam and specifically in business. Ibn Majah includes in his Sunan a chapter entitled, “On tolerance in trade,” in which he records the following narration: Imam Uthman ibn Affan may ALLAH be pleased with him reported: The Messenger of ALLAH, peace and blessings be upon him, said: ALLAH the Exalted will admit a man into Paradise who was easy in his buying and selling, in his paying debts and seeking repayments. Sunan An-Nasa’I 4696. Muslims should always treat others with respect, kindness, and patience. Islam was revealed to make life easier and to encourage good relationships between people. In modern usage, the word “tolerance” has come to signify mutual respect and peaceful coexistence between conflicting religions and ideologies. No doub...

THE FUTURE IS FOR ISLAM

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Arba'a. 21st day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Wednesday 29th May 2024). *_THE FUTURE IS FOR ISLAM_*. BismilLah.  Islam came to return man to his Sustainer and to make HIS guidance (Qur'an and Sunnah) the only source from which values and standards are to be obtained, as HE is the Provider and Originator. All relationships ought to be based through HIM, as we came into being through HIS will and shall return to HIM. Islam is a complete ways of life and nothing can substitute  the guidance of the Qur'an and Sunnah.  Islam came to establish only one relationship which binds men together in the sight of ALLAH, and if this relationship is firmly established, then all other relationships based on blood or other considerations become eliminated. Due to lack of Eemaan, we see SOME muslims so much divided because of politics trying to please the kuffar just to earn some money forgetting only ALLAH is the source of our halaal sustenance through since...

THE ONLY PATH TO PARADISE IS THROUGH ISLAM

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Ath-thalaatha. 20th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Tuesday 28th May 2024). *_THE ONLY PATH TO PARADISE IS THROUGH ISLAM_*. BismilLah.  In the last verse of Suuratul Kahf that's Quran 18 vs 110 ALLAH says to HIS Messenger Muhammad sallalLaahu Alaihi Wasallam, قُلْ Say, to these idolators who reject your message to them, إِنَّمَا أَنَا بَشَرٌ مِّثْلُكُمْ I am only a man like you. Whoever claims that I am lying, let him bring something like this that I have brought. For I did not know the Unseen, the matters of the past which you asked me about and I told you about, the story of the people of the Cave and of Dhul-Qarnayn, stories which are true, I did not know any of this except for what ALLAH made known to me. And I tell you, يُوحَى إِلَيَّ It has been revealed to me,  أَنَّمَا إِلَهُكُمْ that your God, ALLAH, Who calls you to worship HIM, إِلَهٌ وَاحِدٌ is ONE GOD, HIS name is ALLAH with no partner or associate.  فَمَن كَانَ يَرْجُو لِقَاء...

Miraculous Stories

 *Miraculous Stories* ------------------------------. بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Precisely 7 months ago, Ahmad (someone i have never met or seen) called me on phone to seek for advice. It was a long discussion. I have never heard of a SINGLE PERSON passing through similar different tribulations in my life. Ahmad was the one talking in the cause of our conversation on phone, but i was the one shedding tears 😭 out sympathy. To cut the long story short, i gave him some advice and we ended the conversation. Guess what! Yesterday, the same person chatted me on WhatsApp. This is the good news he shared with me: *"All the life challenges i discussed with you few months ago have vanished. Regarding my academic problems, i have passed the toughest of exams when i started praying for success in Tahajjud. However, there’s one moment that changed my life. It taught me that nothing is impossible for Allah (swt). Before your advice some months ago, i happened to be amongst those who question the l...

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 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 3️⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم As head of the family, you are advised to avoid transfer of aggression and finding faults unnecessarily. Yes. Your Madam is not the reason why economic melt-down has decended on you. This is what everybody is battling with now - LACK OF MONEY😀 - She is equally not the reason why you are offended outside your home. Why would you come home and transfer all frustration to the innocent person by coming home to look for faults to enable you pick quarrels with members of uour famly? Is dat fair? In the Qur'an: Al-An'aam (6:164), Allah (swt) say: وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَىٰ ۚ "And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another" 📚(6:164), Honestly, Some men are constantly seeking excuses to pick up fault with everything. They moan at every trivial matter: - "Why is this table dirty? Why is the lunch not ready? Why is that vase here? Have I not s...

HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE CONTINUES

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm al-ithnayn. 19th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Monday 27th May 2024). *_HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE CONTINUES_*. Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.  Let's continue from the reminder yesterday; please note that our parents errors in delaying our marriages are not a chance to commit crimes against our souls.  The command to maintain chastity, for those who cannot afford to get married is to be found in the verse in which ALLAH , may HE be exalted, says: “But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until ALLAH enriches them from HIS bounty”[an-Noor 24:33]. This abstention that is enjoined in this verse is also mentioned in the verses in which ALLAH, May HE be exalted, says  “Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, ALLAH is Acquainted with what they do” an-Noor 24:30.  “And do not approach unlawful sexual inter...

HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE, WHAT ARE THE SOLUTIONS?

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawmul Ahad. 18th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Sunday 26th May 2024).  *_HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE, WHAT ARE THE SOLUTIONS_*? *Bismillah* Let's continue from the reminder yesterday; We all know that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined young men who can afford it to get married, yet Islam did not neglect to give advice to those who cannot afford it as such do not base on the mistakes of some parents to start committing Zina. We are advised in the Qur’an to maintain chastity, and are advised in the Sunnah to fast, so as to attain taqwa (piety, mindfulness of ALLAH) that will protect us from committing haraam actions and teach us good manners and behaviour. Marriage and having children are only Sunnah but obligatory for those who can afford but remaining chaste or total obedience to ALLAH is obligatory on us without any excuses to fall into any disobedience.  It was narrated that ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ood sa...

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 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 2️⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم It's good to always remember that family affairs must be performed by mutual agreement, consultation and cooperation of the husband and wife. However, this small society (family), like any other society, cannot run well without a prudent and influential supervisor and manager. Yes. Most families that lack a manager do not have a desirable situation. Hence, either the wife must take on the responsibility of supervising and safeguarding the family or the husband. Now, Due to the particular genesis of men and women, since most men are generally more rational, as opposed to emotional than women; men are more prepared to manage and supervise the family; and are better equipped to bear hardships. This is why the burden of supervising the family has been set on their shoulders. Conversely, Women are more emotional and passionate than men. Therefore, it is in the best interests of t...

HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm As-Sabt. 17th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Saturday 25th May 2024). *_HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE_*. *Bismillah* Unfortunately, the huge demand of money and so called *Leefe* or clothing for women from young men by some parents has become the main obstacles to get married these days which is against the recommendations of the Prophet Muhammed sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Some parents are failing to know that hasten to offer their daughters out for marriage causes lots of fitnah or trials to the family with possibilities of our young and growing sisters falling into Zina or fornication which is now widespread in our communities today. There is nothing wrong for the so called leefe or to spend on your wife during or before marriage if the brother is wealthy or can afford but it must be his choice of Affordability not instructions from the parents.  To all parents, please note that our children are a trust from ALLAH and we are accoun...

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 *Head of the Family* [[---------- 1⃣ -----------]] -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Man and woman are the two basic pillars of a family, but since men are endowed with special qualities by the order of creation, and because their power of logic is stronger than women's, they are regarded as the guardians of their families. Yes. Allah, (swt) has stated in the glorious Quran: الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ “Men are the protectors and supervisors of women because of the advantage Allah has given some over others and because they support them from their wealth. *Family Economy:* To arrange for alimony of wife is wajib (obligatory) for husband. That is, a man is duty-bound to pay for the expenses of his wife such as food, clothes, house, and medication. And he would be wrong by not keeping to his duties and could be punished by Allah right from this world before that of the...

LET'S BE POSITIVE IN ALL WE DO

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawmul Jumuat. 16th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Friday 24th May 2024). *_LET'S BE POSITIVE IN ALL WE DO_*. BismilLah.  AlhamdulilLah for guiding us into Islamic ways of life which is the ONLY way to Paradise says ALLAH.  As Muslims, Our thoughts have a powerful ability to determine our feelings and emotional states and ultimately affect how we behave, for better or worse. Islam teaches us to direct the act of reflection (tafakkur), or deep thought, towards the signs of ALLAH, the names and attributes of ALLAH, to HIS blessings and wonders, to hope in the Hereafter. By positively controlling our thought processes, we can increase the effectiveness of our prayers and worship as well as relieve ourselves from the anger, depression, and anxieties that worldly thoughts induce. Contrary to popular belief, we have control over which thoughts we choose to follow. We may not have a choice over which particular thought occurs initially in our minds at a g...

LET'S BE POSITIVE IN ALL WE DO.

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Al-Khamis. 15th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Thursday 23rd May 2024). *_LET'S BE POSITIVE IN ALL WE DO_*. BismilLah.  AlhamdulilLah for guiding us into Islamic ways of life which is the ONLY way to Paradise says ALLAH.  As Muslims, Our thoughts have a powerful ability to determine our feelings and emotional states and ultimately affect how we behave, for better or worse. Islam teaches us to direct the act of reflection (tafakkur), or deep thought, towards the signs of ALLAH, the names and attributes of ALLAH, to HIS blessings and wonders, to hope in the Hereafter. By positively controlling our thought processes, we can increase the effectiveness of our prayers and worship as well as relieve ourselves from the anger, depression, and anxieties that worldly thoughts induce. Contrary to popular belief, we have control over which thoughts we choose to follow. We may not have a choice over which particular thought occurs initially in our minds at ...

ALLAH IS ENOUGH AS OUR PROTECTOR

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Arba'a. 14th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Wednesday 22nd May 2024). *_ALLAH IS ENOUGH AS OUR PROTECTOR_*. BismilLah.  ALLAH says in Qur'an 2:257 ٱللَّهُ وَلِىُّ ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ يُخۡرِجُهُم مِّنَ ٱلظُّلُمَٰتِ إِلَى ٱلنُّورِۖ وَٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوٓاْ أَوۡلِيَآؤُهُمُ ٱلطَّٰغُوتُ يُخۡرِجُونَهُم مِّنَ ٱلنُّورِ إِلَى ٱلظُّلُمَٰتِۗ أُوْلَٰٓئِكَ أَصۡحَٰبُ ٱلنَّارِۖ هُمۡ فِيهَا خَٰلِدُونَ  HE is the Wali (Protector or Guardian) of those who believe. HE brings them out from darknesses into light. But as for those who disbelieve, their Awliya' (supporters and helpers) are Taghut (false deities and false leaders), they bring them out from light into darknesses. ALLAH stated that whoever follows what pleases HIM, HE will guide him to the paths of peace, that is Islam, or Paradise. Verily, ALLAH delivers HIS believing servants from the darkness of disbelief, doubt and hesitation, to the light of the plain, clear, explained, easy and unequivocal trut...

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 *Family Managers* [[----------- 12 ----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Before your marriage, you may have had other offers of matrimony. These offers may be from rich, educated, handsome men, etc whom you may have wished to marry. Such expectations were natural before your marriage.. But now that you have chosen your partner and signed a sacred covenant with him to be together for the rest of your life, then, forget the past altogether. Yes. You must put aside your past wishes and forget those past offers.. Do not think of any man except your husband and find peace with him. And If you do otherwise, you will place yourself in a strained mess and condition right from this world to your grave and hearafter. Madam! Now that you have agreed to live with your husband, why should you be constantly noticing other man? Why should you compare your husband with others? What do you achieve by looking at other men except putting yourself in a permanently miserab...

LET'S STRIVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL MUSLIMS

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Ath-thalaatha. 13th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Tuesday 21st May 2024). *_LET'S STRIVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL MUSLIMS_*. BismilLah.  AlhamdulilLah for granting us another day and it's my hope that many are fasting since yesterday till Thursday covering the Monday/Thursday sunnah fasting and the 3 white days of 13th to 15th Dhul-Qa'adah. Back to our topic; ALLAH summarised to us in the Qur'an the qualities of a successful Muslim in Quran 23:1-10. ALLAH says قَدۡ أَفۡلَحَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ  Successful indeed are the believers, who have the following characteristics: الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلَتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ Those who with their Salah are Khashi`un. Ali bin Abi Talhah reported that Ibn Abbas said: Khashi`un means those with fear and with tranquility." Al-Hasan Al-Basri said, "Their Khushu` was in their hearts." So they lowered their gaze and were humble towards others. Khushu` in prayer is only attained by the one who has emptied hi...

SALAAT IS A WEAPON, PROTECTION AND KEY TO PARADISE continues

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm al-ithnayn. 12th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Monday 20th May 2024). *_SALAAT IS A WEAPON, PROTECTION AND KEY TO PARADISE continues_*. BismilLah.  Let's continue with our topic of yesterday.  Abu Al-`Aliyah may ALLAH  be pleased with him commented on the Ayah: إِنَّ الصَّلَةَ تَنْهَى عَنِ الْفَحْشَاء وَالْمُنكَرِ (Verily, the Salah prevents from immoral sins and evil wicked deeds), by saying that Prayer has three attributes, and any prayer that contains none of these attributes is not truly prayer: Being done purely and sincerely for ALLAH alone (Ikhlas),  fear of ALLAH, and remembrance of ALLAH. Ikhlas makes a person do good deeds, fear prevents him from doing evil deeds,  and the remembrance of ALLAH is the Qur'an which contains commands and prohibitions."  *_ May ALLAH keep guiding us all and protect us and our salaat from any satanic influences_*. Aameen

Family Managers* [[----------- 11 ----------]]

 *Family Managers* [[----------- 11 ----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم It is not wrong if a woman is watchful of her husband, but only if it does not grow to exceed to a state of suspicion and mistrust. Yes. Suspicion is a destructive and incurable illness. And Unfortunately, majority of women are affected by this disease. A woman of suspicion imagines that her husband is, lawfully or unlawfully, disloyal to her. She imagines that he is married to another woman or that he is going to marry her. She suspects him of having an affair with his colleague at work or another woman. These types of women also tell others, friends and foes about it, who, in the name of sympathy, add salt to injury by reinforcing the allegations 😀 and in turn tell the concerned women about other unfaithful men. Arguments and rows start to take shape. She would monitor him and search his pockets😀. She would read his calls log and messages and would explain any trivial matter a...

LET'S APPRECIATE THE GIFT OF OUR LIFE AS MUSLIMS AND SAY ALHAMDULILLAH

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. *_LET'S APPRECIATE THE GIFT OF OUR LIFE AS MUSLIMS AND SAY ALHAMDULILLAH_*. BismilLah.  A rich man looking through his window and seeing a poor man picking something from his dustbin may say, Thank YOU ALLAH I'm not poor. A poor man looking around and seeing a naked man misbehaving on the street ... May say, Thank YOU ALLAH I'm not mad. A mad man looking ahead and seeing an ambulance carrying a patient may say Thank YOU ALLAH am not sick. Then a sick person in hospital seeing a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary may say, Thank you ALLAH I'm not dead. Only a dead person cannot thank ALLAH.  Why don't you thank and appreciate ALLAH always for all your blessings and for the gift of life for another beautiful day. There is nothing better in life than to say AlhamdulilLah especially during difficult moments in life. Inherit a habit of saying AlhamdulilLah sincerely in any situation you find yourself.  *_May ALLAH keep guiding us all_*. ...

The Smile of Allah

 *The Smile of Allah* -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Is there anything else we know that Allah Almighty has prepared for the people of the night?.. I mean those people who sacrifice few minutes by waking up to worship Allah while others are sleeping. Muslim Faithful! The Prophet (pbuh) said: *"there are three (3) categories of people whom Allah Almighty loves and He smiles at them and HE is happy with them. Yes. Imagine Allah (swt) smiling 😊 at you!"* What must they have done to deserve the smile of Allah the Almighty? The Prophet (pbuh) mentioned *one of the three (3) people is a person who has a beautiful spouse (husband/wife) and a very comfortable bed, but then, in the middle of the night, he or she gets up and leaves his or her spouse, leaves his or her desire to remember Allah.* So Allah Almighty will say to His angels: "Look at how my slaves left their beds and desire in order to remember Me.. And *if they wanted, they could have continue...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------🔟----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Everyone, except those that Allah has declared as "Infallible" makes mistakes. And when two people, who love together and cooperate with each other, make mistakes, they must be forgiving each other. And if they do not forgive each other, then, their marriage will come to an end😳. Yes Madam.. Two business partners, two neighbours, two colleagues, two friends, and specifically, a husband and a wife need to be able to forgive each other. If the members of a family are unforgiving and pursue each other's mistakes, then, either the family will separate or they will experience an unbearable life. Madam! Your husband probably makes mistakes. He may insult you or abuse you due fraustration resulting from economic meltdown or tell lies sometimes. Such acts might be committed by any man, even though there behaviors are not allowed in Islam. So, If your husband, after making a mista...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------9️⃣----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم If a person is generous and charitable with the wealth that he has acquired from hard work, the appreciation and notice given in response to such acts will warm that person's inner feelings and give him a feeling of accomplishment. Yes. Acts of goodwill may then, become second nature to the person, whereby it becomes a habit to spend and share one's wealth for those in need. However, If the acts of goodwill are taken for granted and unappreciated, the person may lose the desire and drive to do good. Yes.. It would be natural for a person to conclude that it was a waste to give away his hard earned money when it was unappreciated. Madam of the House! Gratitude and appreciation are admirable characteristics in a person and it is the secret by which one may attract charitable acts. Yes. Even Allah has mentioned that gratitude for His blessings are conditional on the continual perp...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------8️⃣----------]] ------------------------------ *"Wrong Expectations & competitive rivalry"* بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Madam!... You are the mistress of your household. Be wise, reasonable and understanding. Keep an account of your expenses. Budget your expenditures in a way that it is not detrimental to your husband's back pocket, wealth and honor..l Yes. Do not compete with others and be envious of them. If you see a nice dress on a woman or if you become interested in some furnishings that you have seen at a friend's or relative's house, do not compel your husband to purchase them, which is beyond his financial means and would force him to borrow. Isn't it better to wait until your budget is higher or there is some extra saving to make non-essential purchases? It is mostly the ignorant and selfish women who succumb to extravagance and rivalry.. These women force their husbands to be under debt and they become exhausted and di...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------7️⃣----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم One of the negative characteristics of some people is their speaking ill of each other. This characteristic is not only unpleasant by nature, but it is also a cause of much mischief. Yes. It destroys friendly atmospheres and sows the seed of discord among families, and even separates men from their wives. Unfortunately, This characteristic is so widespread among the people that, it does not even seems to be a bad habit any more. Yes. In a gathering, it is rare not to hear gossiping and backbiting. Specially, in a women's gathering, the element of gossip is dominant😃. Yes. When two or more women meet, they start gossiping. They talk slanderously of others as if it is a HALAL competition😀. They sometimes talk about their husbands first. For instance, they discuss their looks or jobs and find fault with the other woman's husband. One woman would blame the other one for being mar...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------6️⃣----------]] ------------------------------ بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم It is customary with most women that whenever they go to attend a party, walimah, wedding ceremony, naming ceremony or a gathering, they wear their best dresses 👚👗👠👜 and adorn themselves with the best. However, upon returning home,....🙆🏻‍♀, they take their dresses off and put on an old and shabby dress😀. These women are not particular about cleanliness at home and do not care about beautifying themselves at home. Yes. They walk around the house with disheveled hair, stained clothes, and torn socks😀. While in the real sense, the situation should be reverse, that is, a woman should adorn herself at home and charm her husband in order to conquer his heart and in order not to leave any gap for other women to fill. Madam❗ Why should you look beautiful for others? Is it proper for a woman to expose her beauty before the eyes of other men and to create problems for the general pub...

SALAAT IS A WEAPON, PROTECTION AND KEY TO PARADISE

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawmul Ahad. 11th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Sunday 19th May 2024). *_SALAAT IS A WEAPON, PROTECTION AND KEY TO PARADISE_*. BismilLah.  ALLAH, the Almighty, Creator of the Universe instructed the Messenger of mankind Muhammad sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam to inform mankind of the following Qur'an 29 vrs 45;  Recite, [O Muḥammad], what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of ALLAH is greater. And ALLAH knows that which you do. Let's expand this verse by the Tafsir of  ibn kathir اتْلُ مَا أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ الْكِتَابِ ALLAH commands HIS Messenger and the believers to recite the Qur'an, which means both reciting it and conveying it to people. وَأَقِمِ الصَّلَأةَ إِنَّ الصَّلَأةَ تَنْهَى عَنِ الْفَحْشَاء وَالْمُنكَرِ وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ and perform the Salah. Verily, the Salah prevents from Al-Fahsha' and Al-Munkar and the remembrance of A...

LET'S APPRECIATE THE GIFT OF OUR LIFE AS MUSLIMS AND SAY ALHAMDULILLAH

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm As-Sabt. 10th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Saturday 18th May 2024). *_LET'S APPRECIATE THE GIFT OF OUR LIFE AS MUSLIMS AND SAY ALHAMDULILLAH_*. BismilLah.  A rich man looking through his window and seeing a poor man picking something from his dustbin may say, Thank YOU ALLAH I'm not poor. A poor man looking around and seeing a naked man misbehaving on the street ... May say, Thank YOU ALLAH I'm not mad. A mad man looking ahead and seeing an ambulance carrying a patient may say Thank  YOU ALLAH am not sick. Then a sick person in hospital seeing a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary may say, Thank you ALLAH I'm not dead. Only a dead person cannot thank ALLAH.  Why don't you thank and appreciate ALLAH always for all your blessings and for the gift of life for another beautiful day. There is nothing better in life than to say AlhamdulilLah especially during difficult moments in life. Inherit a habit of saying AlhamdulilLah since...

ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawmul Jumuat. 9th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Friday 17th May 2024). *_ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS_*. BismilLah.  AlhamdulilLah for blessing us to be part of this blessed day.  So What is Islam saying about this topic we've been talking about for the past three days? The message of Islam fits the Fitrah of man. ALLAAH (The Most Wise) created man in the best form. HE gave his Fitrah the ability to believe in the unseen. Thus, man's soul and its horizons are broader and more open than that of the rest of creation - like the animals, bird's and insects. In nature we can see the signs of ALLAH as ALLAH says: "Do they not look at the camels, and how they were created? And at the heavens, how it is raised? And at the mountains, how they are rooted and fixed firm? And at the earth, how it is spread out?" (Quran 88:17-20). In ourselves we can see ALLAH'S signs through the diversity of ...

ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Al-Khamis. 8th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Thursday 16th May 2024). *_ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS_*. BismilLah.  Islam does not allow a Muslim to surrender themselves to lust and desire, as in contemporary 'civilisation'. Islam recognises the love a man has for women, children, gold, silver, and other possessions. But it provides a limit for the amount of this worldly pleasure which we require, and reminds us of the life in the hereafter. ALLAH says: "Beautified for men is the love of things they desire: Women, Children, much of gold and silver (wealth), branded beautiful horses, cattle and well-tilled land. This is the pleasure of the present world's life, but ALLAAH has the excellent return ( Paradise)"(Quran 3:141) The inclinations and desires of the natural being are not to become the objective in life. Rather they are to be taken in a stabilised manner. The way to deal wit...

ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Arba'a. 7th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Wednesday 15th May 2024). *_ISLAM, THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE CONTINUES FROM YESTERDAY REMINDERS_*. BismilLah.  Humans lack perfect knowledge as well as perfect wisdom. No matter how hard we try, we will never attain the perfect way of life by our own thinking and interpretation. This is the reason why ALLAAH being the Most Wise, sent us the Qur'an and the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) to show us this practical and organised way of life. ALLAAH, being Perfect, in HIS Wisdom and Knowledge, perfected a complete way of life for us. HE has set HIS limitations and rules, all of which are beneficial to mankind, and therefore, do not need changing: ALLAH says, "These are the limits (set) by ALLAAH, so do not approach them" (Quran 2:187). "These are the limits set by ALLAAH, so do not transgress them" (Surah al-Baqarah 2:229). This is why Islam does not allow celibacy, beca...

ISLAM IS THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Ath-thalaatha. 6th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Tuesday 14th May 2024). *_ISLAM IS THE MODERN BETTER ALTERNATIVE TO LIFE_*. BismilLah.  Some people think that to live an Islamic life is "restrictive". Islam however, was revealed as a balanced way of living. ALLAH (The Most High) created all the humans with what is called 'Fitrah' (a natural state/desire). Islam recognises that within this Fitrah there are motivations that influence a man's role on earth e.g. a desire for good food and drink, to have a home, a desire for love, to protect and be protected and to be successful and strong. Without some form of control and limit, all of these legitimate motives could prove very dangerous. So what constitutes the perfect control for the Fitrah? It must be a method that provides an organised yet practical demonstration of how to balance all these natural human desires. It cannot be something that goes against the Fitrah, by placing on i...

THE GATES OF GOODNESS

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm al-ithnayn. 5th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1445AH (Monday 13th May 2024).  *_THE GATES OF GOODNESS_*. BismilLah.  Narrated Mu'adh bin Jabal [radhi-yAllahu 'anhu]: The Prophet (ALLAH'S Messenger ) said to him: "May I show you the gates of goodness? (They are): (1) Fasting is a screen from Hell. (2) As-Sadaqah (deeds of charity in ALLAH'S Cause) extinguishes (removes) the sins, as the water extinguishes the fire. (3) Standing in Salat (performing of prayers) by a person during the middle (or the last third) part of a night." Then the Prophet (sallalLaahu Alaihi Wasallam) recited: "Their sides forsake their beds." (QURAN 32:16) (Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi) (Tafsir Al-Qurtubi). Search for the tafseer of this beautiful verse.  *_May ALLAH, AL-GHAFOOR (The Forgiving, The Exceedingly Forgiving) aid us to be able to be steadfast in Fasting, giving sadaqah and praying at night_*. Aameen.

Pay for your Visitor

 *Pay for your Visitor* -------------------------------- بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم There's no one who doesn't needs a good beneficial visitor. Infact, it is agreed that, in the grave, everyone's visitors or companions will be his or her deed (good or bad). This remind me, "A graveyard caretaker was once asked: *"Have you ever, during your so many days in a graveyard, observed any astonishing thing?"* He said: *"Yes"*. Only the other day people brought here a body, buried it and went away. After a while, a very foul smell spread the like of which I had never known. Then all of a sudden I saw a terribly horrifying form of a black dog-like animal. The foul smell was emanating from its body. That fearsome form then came nearer and disappeared inside the aforesaid new grave and came out of the said grave after a long time. Then, after a little while, a very sweet and pleasing fragrance began to spread around the like of which also I had never felt in my lif...

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 *Family Managers* [[-----------5️⃣----------]] ------------------------------ *You need not Sulk when you have little misunderstanding with your husband* بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم It is customary with some women that, when upset with their husbands, they sulk, refuse to talk, do not attend to household work, hit the children, or grumble😀. Some wives may even keep malice with their husband for longer than necessary. They believe that, not speaking, or quarrelling are the best possible ways of revenging their husbands. Honestly, This attitude, not only fails to punish the man, but may result in his retaliation. Yes. And life then, becomes difficult, turning into a series of quarrels. The woman moans, then, the man does😀. The woman refuses to talk and the man retaliates.. The woman does something else, and the man does the same until they become tired and, through the mediation of relatives or friends, reconcile.. But this is not the only time they had a row.. There will be other occa...