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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Your relationship is a package deal. Regardless of how perfect they may have seemed initially, your spouse will always have some habits that bother you. Change sometimes doesn’t happen fast enough to suit us. Yes. Your beloved may be oblivious to your dissatisfaction. If he or she doesn’t realize the need to change something quickly, a loving spouse can gently ask for change using wisdom. Yes. Allah swt say:

ٱدْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِٱلْحِكْمَةِ وَٱلْمَوْعِظَةِ ٱلْحَسَنَةِۖ وَجَٰدِلْهُم بِٱلَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُۚ

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best..." 📚An-Nahl 16:125

Nagging, cajoling, and arguing, however, get us nowhere and can make us even more miserable.

In a relationship, it’s not about losing or winning arguments or fights but being mindful and choosing between matters that just need to blow over and issues that are worth tackling.

You need to evaluate if the problem at hand is worth arguing over. It’s natural for you and your partner not to agree on everything. Hence, sometimes, if it’s a minor or an inconsequential matter, it’s worth dropping.

My People,

Everyone wants to feel comfortable with the choices they make in life whether good or bad. However, repeating familiar behaviours can be harmful and destructive in a marital relationship, and the good news is that you can help your spouse overcome negative repetitive behaviour in your marriage. Yes. This remind me of some people's testimonies which will help in this:

*Testimony No 1*

Ustaz Ibrahim narrated: I'm the type of person who hate music the way i hate shaytan (devil). I married a sister who was found of listening to music. Infact, she enjoyed listening to music more than she enjoyed food. Our first week after marriage to me, was like a life in a community of dangerous animals. I used all the Qur'an verses and hadeeth i know which prohibit music, but it doesn't make any positive change. This bad behavior continued for like a month. I now resolved to use plan 🅱️ since the words of Allah (swt) did not give me a desired results. She love me so much and so deep. So, each time she played the music, i used to stand up and leave the house for her (even if it's in the middle of the night). She used to asked - *"where are you going to by this time?"* - my response used to be - *"I don't like music and i can't bear to stay with you while listening to music. I will come back home when you are done"*... Since she love me so much, she do not like me leaving the house. She used to off the music just to keep me by her side. Gradually, she stopped listening to music. Today, she hate seeing someone playing music anywhere she is. Alhamdulillah!"

*The Bitter Truth:*

Even if you separate with your wife or husband because he or she is having so so and so undesirable behaviors, definitely, the next person you will marry may....