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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family. This is an Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship.

Know, dear sister, dear brother, that you are not a loser in whatever sacrifices you put in your marital relationship, as long as your aim is to please Allah (swt). In fact, the loser is the person who look at the institution called "marriage" as something which is built upon - "how many clothes and shoes my husband have purchased for me in a year, the amount of money my wife will contribute to help me run the family, the number of cars and landed properties my husband will give me....etc ..."

Slaves of Allah!

Even if you separate with your wife or husband because he or she is having so so and so undesirable behaviors, definitely, the next person you will marry will also have some undesirable behaviors (which maybe different from the one's of your ex);

It's not easy trying to push someone into changed behavior. And the key to this battle is patience and understanding.

After all,

Ibn Umar reported: The Prophet (pbuh) said, “The believer who mixes with people and is patient with their harm has a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people, nor is patient with their harm.” 📚Source: Sunan Ibn Ma‌jah 4032 - Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

Now,

*How To Handle A Difficult Husband Or Wife When it Comes to Change:*

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised.

*Tip No 5:* Ask, don’t interpret or assume things

One example out of millions is - it's not every call which enters your spouse's phone which he or she refuses to answer proves their guilty of infidelity.

A fight or argument arises because you misinterpret your other half’s expressions or actions. A misinterpretation of your spouse's action or expression will make you react with anger, rudeness, or disrespect. So, instead of using hurtful words or displaying anger, openly communicate with them. Yes. Before you make an assumption about their feelings or react to your interpretations of their actions, ask them to elucidate the actions they are exhibiting. After all, Allah (swt) say:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱجْتَنِبُوا۟ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثْمٌۖ

"O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin...." 📚Al-Hujurat 49:12

So,

If your spouse’s heart seems open at all, and he or she show readiness to talk, then, begin the conversation wisely. Don’t blame them; talk about the behavior, the problem. Be a fair chief judge while dealing with any situation. Yes. Put yourself in their shoes while judging. Such interventions are...

To be continued