*Together Forever*
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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم
Marriage is a beautiful journey. It starts with love. But sometimes, that love can grow smaller. Many things can cause this. One of the biggest reasons is when we stop forgiving.
My People,
Allah (swt) loves those who choose to forgive. In the Quran, He describes good people as those "who restrain anger and who pardon the people" 📚(Qur'an 3:134). This is especially important in marriage.
A happy marriage is a union of two good forgivers. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us to "pardon whoever wrongs you." He said:
O Uqbah, reconcile whoever cuts you off, give to whoever deprives you, and pardon whoever wrongs you..." 📚Source: Musnad Ahmad 16999
The Prophet (pbuh) said: *“Whoever suffers an injury and forgives (the person responsible), Allah will raise his or her status to a higher degree and remove some sins committed by the one who forgives.” 📚(Tirmidhi)
My People,
You will live with your spouse for many years. In that time, you will both make mistakes and hurt each other's feelings. If you do not forgive, the hurt grows. Unforgiveness hurts your spouse, but it also hurts you.
Yes!
Sometimes we think forgiving means the wrong thing was okay. That is not true. Forgiving is not about the other person. It is about you.
(1) It is giving yourself permission to let go of the past pain.
(2) It is freeing yourself from the poison that keeps you stuck.
(3) It is choosing peace for your own heart.
My People,
You cannot always forget the hurt. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. But you can choose to let it go and move forward. Yes. Couples who practice forgiveness remove the toxic hurt that keeps them apart. It is the only way to move through unhappiness.
Sure!
It is normal to hurt each other in a long marriage. But choosing to forgive shows you still have goodwill for your partner. It shows you choose your marriage and your own peace.
So, talk to each other. Be brave. Let go of the old pains. Choose to forgive, not because your spouse always deserves it, but because you deserve peace, and your marriage deserves a chance to live and love again.
May Allah (swt) fill your hearts with forgiveness and your home with lasting peace. Ameen Ya Hayyu La Yamootu Abadah.
To be continued...
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