Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage Episode 272 GETTING MARRIED

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 272*

*GETTING MARRIED*

‘And We have created everything in pairs, that perhaps you may remember.’ 

(Qur’an,51:49) 

So you are getting married?

Congratulations, and may ALLĀH bless you and bring you and 

your chosen partner to a long and happy life, together! 

Leaving your childhood behind, and becoming man and wife together, is the most important step short of actually becoming Muslim that any human being can take in the interests of their own happiness and wellbeing. 

‘And among Allah's signs is this: that He created for you spouses from among 

yourselves, so that you might find rest in them; and He has set between you love and 

compassion. Truly there are signs in this for people who reflect.’ (Qur'an, 20:21)

‘Our Lord, grant us the delight of our eyes from our wives and our offspring...’ 

(Qur'an, 25:74) 

Marriage is such an important step that our Blessed Prophet (PBUH) spoke of marriage 

as being ‘half the religion': 'Whoever has married has completed half of his religion; 

therefore let him fear Allah in the other half!' (Bayhaqi) 

You have only to use your eyes and your ears, and consider the marriages of those 

people you know in your own circle of family, friends and acquaintances, to know that this is so.

 

If your marriage is happy and fulfilled, then no matter what troubles may beset you, no matter what hardships you are obliged to face as you pass along your road of 

life, no matter what sicknesses or distressing circumstances, you will always face them 

as if your back were against a protecting fortress, inside the walls of which you may 

set aside all the terrors and traumas for while, and be loved. 

But marriage is also a most demanding training ground of faith. By claiming it to be `half the religion' the Blessed Prophet was not making an idle statement. When human couple strive hard to get their marriage and family right in the eyes of God, they are indeed well on e road to Paradise. 

For it is love which makes a marriage-not a soppy, sentimental kind of romantic dream, but the sort of love which will roll up its sleeves and get stuck into the mess; 

the sort of love which will hang on to you when everyone else has turned against you and is speaking wrongly of you, while you have confidence that your partner (who knows you better than any person) will justify that confidence, and spring to your defence. 

Sounds too good to be true? Those of you who have grown up in unhappy circumstances, in families shaken by frustrations and depressions, where the adults were bitter and cynical, and over-authoritarian, may well wonder if it is possible to have such a loving relationship with another human being. 

By the grace of God, it is possible, and it is what Allah intended for you, by the practice of Islam which is submission to His compassionate will. 

But a happy marriage is not simply `made in Heaven.' It does not just happen by accident. 

You could go into a most beautiful garden and be amazed at the profusion and lushness of the flowers, the neatness of the borders and grasses, the absence of marauding insects and pests-and you would never for a moment think that this had come about by accident.