THE ISLAMIC MARRIAGE COURSE HOW TO FIND A COMPATIBLE SPOUSE What to Look for in a Potential Wife 11. Responsible Home Maker

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*THE ISLAMIC MARRIAGE COURSE*

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*HOW TO FIND A COMPATIBLE SPOUSE*

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*What to Look for in a Potential Wife*

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*11. Responsible Home Maker*

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A righteous Muslim woman is the type of woman who can and is willing to take care of the home of her husband and his children whilst he fends for the provision of the family. Through her gentle care, she fills the role of a responsible home maker, who takes care of the property of her husband. Her pre-occupation is on raising her children upon righteous foundations, and nursing them with motherly care, so they can grow in righteousness and goodness.

Narrated Ibn 'Umar: The Prophet said, 

_"All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian and is responsible for her husband's house and his children; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards._ (Bukhari)

You don’t want to marry a woman who thinks she has metamorphosed beyond her natural obligations, that shouldering her responsibilities as a woman is too much a task to ask for. So beware of such women because they don’t make good mothers or home makers.

_“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.”_ [Surah An-Nisa, 34]

For, it’s a virtue to be a responsible home maker and one who helps her husband regarding his children and property.

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, 

_“The best women among the camel riders (i.e. Arabs), are the women of Quraish". They are merciful and kind to their off-spring and the best guardians of their husbands’ properties’.”_ (Bukhari)

Because, there is no better gift to a believer than a righteous wife whom is a responsible home maker, makes herself available when he seeks her attention, obeys him when he deputes her, if he looks at her he is pleased and when he is away she is sincere towards him with regards to herself and his property.

Narrated/Authority of Abu Umamah, the Prophet (saw) used to say: 

_"Nothing is more benefit to the believer after Taqwa of Allah than a righteous wife whom, if he commands her she obeys him, if he looks at her he is pleased, if he swears an oath concerning her she fulfills it, and when he is away from her she is sincere towards him with regard to herself and his wealth."_ (Bukhari)

May Allah ﷻ increase us in guidance and grant us happy and tranquil homes.  (آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ )

To be continued... إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللّٰهُ