Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage Episode 275 THE KEY TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 275*

*THE KEY TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE*

 

'Actions are only (judged) by intentions; each person shall be rewarded only for that which 

he intended.' (Bukhari and Muslim) All human beings share the same basic needs-to feel 

needed, to be appreciated, respected and loved. Without these needs, a human being 

cannot really be said to be human. And the most obvious thing about these needs is that 

they all depend absolutely on the relationship of one person with another. 

So basic are they that one can surely take evidence from them that the need for 

people to find partners, and mate, and interact together with each other and then in the 

creation of happy, stable families, is intended by our Creator as a sign.

The family is the oldest of all human institutions, and entire civilisations have 

flourished or disappeared depending on whether family life was strong or weak. Yet all over the world today, and not just in the West, families are breaking down and societies are 

disintegrating into confusion and despair. Hence the central importance which Islam 

attaches to family values, and to the art-and it is an art-of making this most basic of all 

relationships work. 

Embarking on a marriage is really very similar to beginning the construction of a building. The building may be extremely magnificent and 

grand, but the most important thing about it is the foundations upon which it is built. If 

those foundations are not secure, the building will not survive when the storms and shocks 

of stress hit it, as they inevitably will sooner or later. 

What does a husband need to do in order to gain his wife's respect? And why does it 

matter so much to him? And why does a woman have such a powerful need for a husband's love? How can she earn it, and keep him faithful to her? Our Lord has revealed guidelines for human life together since the dawn of time, and for over fourteen centuries Muslims have had the example of the life of the Prophet (P.B.U.H) Muhammad (4). Wise counsel on how to build the foundations of a marriage, and then to create a happy family, have been freely available for anyone to consult. Muslims believe that whether people follow these guidelines or not actually determines not only their earthly happiness, but also their eternal fate once their earthly life is finished

 

There are really two keys to a happy marriage. The first is to love Allah, and to seek 

to apply His principles in every situation and relationship. The second is to do a little 

sensible soul-search and analysis before embarking on such an important enterprise-one that is going to be the most profound commitment in the whole of your life, and is going to affect the lives and wellbeing of so many people, not only your own!