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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 301*
*Principles in Familial Stability*
*1. The First principle: Istiqamah (Steadfastness)*
upon the commands of Allah —glorified and exalted
be He— is the reason for every happiness.
Allah —glorified and exalted be He— clarified in His
book the condition of His believing servants, so He —
glorified and exalted be He— said: “Verily, those who say:
"Our Lord is Allah (Alone)," and then they stand firm, on
them the angels will descend (at the time of their death)
(saying): "Fear not, nor grieve! But receive the glad
tidings of Paradise which you have been promised!”.
[41:30]
Those whom Allah —glorified and exalted be He—
mentioned their attributes [in the aforementioned verse]
and their speech, which is their statement: “‘Our Lord is
Allah alone’ then they remain steadfast”: they remain
steadfast upon Eeman (faith), remain steadfast upon
fulfilling the commands and staying away from the
prohibitions, and remain steadfast upon all of the
religion as the people of knowledge have said regarding
the meaning of Istiqamah (steadfastness).
And so what is Istiqamah? It is following the speech of
Allah —glorified and exalted be He—, and the speech of
the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ,while adorning one’s self with the noble
Islamic mannerisms of which the encouragement of has
come in the book of Allah —glorified and exalted be He
— and the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ,because if a
person was to oppose this guidance, then verily he
would be a follower of his desires, [as Allah has said in
the verse]: “But if they answer you not (i.e. do not bring
the Book nor believe in your doctrine of Islamic
Monotheism), then know that they only follow their own
lusts. And who is more astray than one who follows his
own lusts, without guidance from Allah? Verily, Allah
guides not the people who are Zalimun (wrongdoers,
disobedient to Allah, and polytheists)”. [28:50]
And so Allah commanded us with Istiqamah, and for
that we supplicate to Him in every recitation of Surat Al-
Fatiha (the opening chapter of the Qur’an) by our saying:
“Guide us to the Straight Way”. [1:6]
And Allah —glorified and exalted be He— ordered us
with this tremendous commandment, which is the
commandment of Istiqamah, He said: “So stand (ask
Allah to make) you (Muhammad SAW) firm and straight
(on the religion of Islamic Monotheism) as you are
commanded and those (your companions) who turn in
repentance (to Allah) with you”. [11:112]. He said: “And
verily, this (i.e. Allah’s Commandments mentioned in the
above two Verses 151 and 152) is my Straight Path, so follow it, and follow not (other) paths, for they will
separate you away from His Path. This He has ordained
for you that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”.
[6:153]
Al-Istiqamah: what is its relationship to the familial life?
And why is it a means from the means of happiness?
No two people differ over [the fact that] obedience to
Allah —glorified and exalted be He— is the means to all
happiness, and that steadfastness upon His commands
and the commands of His Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is the means
for guidance and that which distances one from mental
and social problems and other than that. That is why if a
house was built upon the affair of steadfastness upon
the religion of Allah —glorified and exalted be He—, and
the two spouses strove from the very first day for its
foundation to be upon the commandment of Allah —
glorified and exalted be He— and the commandment of
the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ,moved with their house away from sins,
violations, evil deeds, and semblances of disobedience,
strove to make it an ideal Muslim household throughout
which the verses of Allah —glorified and exalted be He—
are recited, and its inhabitants stand steadfast upon the
obedience of Allah and the obedience of the Prophet
صلى الله عليه وسلم ,carrying out the obligations and staying far away
from prohibitions, then there is no doubt that Shaytaan (devil) will be the furthest away from a house of this kind.
However, the house in which the aspects of
steadfastness weaken, and it becomes a center for evil
deeds and a place of religious violations, then no doubt,
the whisperings of Shaytaan and the desires of the self
will be prevalent in accordance to the distance of its
inhabitants from steadfastness upon the commandment
of Allah and the commandment of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم.
And so, from the greatest blessings that Allah —
glorified and exalted be He— bestows upon a person:
that He grants him steadfastness upon the
commandment of Allah —glorified and exalted be He—,
the commandment of Tawheed (Monotheism), Eeman
(Faith), and obedience, and the affair Ittiba’ (following the
Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم .(That is why the People of knowledge
said: “The greatest honor [that Allah —glorified and
exalted be He— gives a person] is constant
steadfastness”.
The greatest of what Allah bestows upon His slave of
Karamaat (miracles) is that he remains constantly
steadfast.
This does not mean that a person doesn’t make
mistakes, doesn’t slip, doesn’t fall into sins and acts of
disobedience, rather, a believer is one who always
returns to his Lord —glorified and exalted be He—, turns
to Him in repentance if he slips, makes a mistake, or heedlessness, forgetfulness, or negligence occurs from
him—he races towards repentance. Thus, this house
becomes a house established upon the obedience of
Allah —glorified and exalted be He—, and compliant to
the commandment of Allah —glorified and exalted be
He—.
These houses that don’t have acts of disobedience in
them, the Angels are present in them, and the
Shayateen (devils) flee from them. Therefore, it is
mentioned in the hadith: “Angels do not enter a house
which has either a dog or a picture in it”. [Bukhari, 3322],
because having a dog is impermissible, except in the
cases in which the Shari’ah (Islamic legislations) has
made an exception, and it is from the acts of
disobedience.
Similarly, it is upon a person to purify his house from
every filth and every unpleasant matter, because this
aids a slave [of Allah] upon his tranquility, his
righteousness, and the righteousness of all those in the
household.
A man came to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and said, "O Messenger
of Allah, tell me something of Islam which I will not ask
anyone else about it", He صلى الله عليه وسلم said, "Say, 'I believe in Allah'
and then be steadfast". [Muslim, 38] Let us ponder upon the saying of Allah —glorified and
exalted be He—: “And whoever holds firmly to Allah, (i.e.
practically follows Islam—Allah’s Religion, and obeys all
that Allah has ordered), then he is indeed guided to a
Right Path. [3:101].
A tremendous verse [it is]! “And whoever holds firmly to
Allah”, i.e. entrusts his affair to Allah —glorified and
exalted be He—, holds firm to His legislations, and
embraces his religion, then [about him] Allah [has] said:
“Then he is indeed guided to a Right Path”.
This guidance is the guidance of Tawfeeq (success),
which is from Allah —glorified and exalted be He, alone
He is, without any partners—, and from the great favors
Allah confers upon a person is [the favor of] guidance,
and therefore Allah —glorified and exalted be He—
addressed His Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم] and said]: “Say (O
Muhammad): "Truly, my Lord has guided me to a Straight
Path, a right religion, the religion of Ibrahim (Abraham),
Hanifa [i.e. the true Islamic Monotheism—to believe in
One God (Allah i.e. to worship none but Allah, Alone)]
and he was not of Al-Mushrikun ". [6:161]
And so, the stability of the Family, its happiness, and
the righteousness of its affairs lies in clinging to its
Religion. Corruption in one’s religion, being far-off from
the Shari’ah (Islamic legislations), opposition to the guidance of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is [all] from the causes of
weakness, instability, and falling apart [of the family].
And for that reason, it’s not befitting that people always
look towards the materialistic causes, [rather] they
should review their relationship with Allah —glorified and
exalted be He—, His religion, the Sunnah of His Prophet
صلى الله عليه وسلم ,the affair of Prayer, Qur’an an their conditions when
it comes to violations and sins so that they become
aware of the real causes that lead to instability,
disagreements, and the disaffection that occurs
suddenly between members of the family, whether
between spouses, brothers, or other than them.
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