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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 307*
*Principles In Familial Stability*
*7. The Seventh Principle: Martial secrets are not material for broadcasting and spreading.*
It comes in the hadith of Abu Sa’eed -May Allah be
pleased with him-: Allah's Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "The worst
of people in position before Allah on the Day of Resurrection is the man who has intercourse with his
wife, and she with him, and then spreads her secrets".
[Muslim, 1437]. This hadith indicates the prohibition of a
man spreading that which occurs between him and his
wife from the intimate marital affairs, describing the
details of it, and that which comes about from the wife in
it of statements, actions, or suchlike, as has been
mentioned by Imam An-Nawawi and other than him
from the people of knowledge.
This hadith is clear in this matter, however, it is also not
permissible for a woman that she mentions something
of the flaws of her husband to people of which there is
no legislated justification for mentioning, and this is from
backbiting. Therefore, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Do you know
what is backbiting?" The Companions said: "Allah and His
Messenger know best." Thereupon he said, "Backbiting is
talking about your (Muslim) brother in a manner which
he dislikes." It was said to him: "What if my (Muslim)
brother is as I say." He said, "If he is actually as you say, then that is backbiting him; but if that is not in him, then
it is slandering him". [Muslim, 2589]
For the bond between the two spouses is a strong and
firm bond and the familial life is a life that requires
safekeeping and maintenance, and so when the
husband starts spreading the flaws of his wife amongst
people —and likewise the wife—, then it becomes a
demolition of the [family] structure and exposure of the
familial life to deterioration and weakness.
If it has come in the hadith: "If a man spoke something
then turned and looked around, then it is a trust". [At-
Tirmidhi, 1959]; If he only looks to the right or the left,
then it is a trust, i.e. it is not permissible for a person to
inform of that, then how about that which happens
between the two spouses? This is an important affair. It is
not permissible for a wife to mention that which occurs
between her and her husband except in certain
instances such as an important matter where a
legislated reason is found from the likes of seeking a
religious verdict, consultation, complaining of
oppression in a court, or the likes of such issues.
Otherwise, the fundamental principle is that familial lives
are safeguarded and protected and that secrets are not
spread.
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