Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage Episode 309 Principles In Familial Stability

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 309*

*Principles In Familial Stability*

*10. The Tenth and Final Principle: It is his saying صلى الله عليه وسلم ,

“The best of you are those who are best to their family, and I am the best to my family”.*

This is a tremendous principle. ‘Those who are best to

their family’, i.e. if a person has something of

benevolence, virtue, or honoring, then the greatest

whom he can honor is his family, his wife, his mother, he

honors his father, he honors his children... These are his

family, he is good with them, he spends on them; they

are more befitting and better to spend on than other

than them, and this goes for the husband and the wife. 

The greatest person you can display love and affection

to, give beautiful speech and a beautiful appearance to

is the husband. And the greatest person you can honor,

smile to and laugh with, gift a beautiful character, and

exert yourself to deal in goodness with is the mother of

your children, your wife. 

“The best of you are those who are best to their

family…” [At-Tirmidhi, 3895]. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم explained

this further and said: “And I am the best to my family”.

Therefore, if we were to look at the biography of the

Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ,and into his dealing with his wives, into his

kindness, his playful races with them, his living good

with them, then indeed, we would find in it the most

amazing of affairs. 

However, many of the wives (today) complain about

the husband: that he is not even close to giving her

anything from the rights: not from her personal rights or

the rights of spending, and not from affairs of the

household or the affairs of the children. And the

husband likewise, perhaps he complains about her

being busy, so she gives to other than him from

importance, care and concern, and looking after that

which he does not find. 

The stability of family life is the stability of society, it is

the stability of countries, and before all of that, it is

carrying out the commands of the Shari’ah. And with these points, we have provided some of that

which could be said are means or general principles to

the stability of families. And whoever examines the

Shari’ah, ponders upon the Prophetic narrations, and

looks into his biography صلى الله عليه وسلم with his wives will find plenty

of that and many [other] tremendous means to family

stability.

I ask Allah —glorified and exalted be He— that we are

from those who hear the speech and follow the best of

it, and to provide us with good character, and to divert

from us lowly character, and to give us success to

righteous statements and actions. And may Allah send

peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and

his family, and his companions.

And the end of our supplication is that All Praise is for

Allah, the Lord of all that exists.