Married Women* [[---- Episode 4 ----]]

 *Married Women*

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*A Muslimah’s Guide to Avoiding Ill-Timed Complaints*

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

There is no one who does not have problems and grievances in daily life. But the point to remember is that — *"there is a time and place for everything."* Yes. Just as a farmer does not sow seeds in barren land, a wise woman does not plant complaints in an unprepared heart. Some women, however, out of..... fail to realize that their husbands return home exhausted—physically drained and mentally fatigued after a long day’s work. Instead of allowing him an hour or two to regain his spirits, they *"add fuel to the fire"* by bombarding him with a barrage of complaints the moment he steps through the door. 

Most a time, when your husband walks through that door, his soul is *"like a flickering candle in the wind."* Your first words determine whether you reignite his light or extinguish it completely.

My sister,

Every soul carries burdens, and every home faces trials. While sharing concerns is natural, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) taught us that *"wisdom is knowing the right time for things."* 📚(Al-Bayhaqi). But some wives, however, fall into the trap of "unloading their cargo at the wrong port😀". In fact, your husband may not be too tired but his brain is hotter than the bakery oven because he is thinking about how 2+2 will give him 4 for the family.

*Did you know?*
 
The Prophet (pbuh) would often seek refuge in Allah from *"a wife who complains excessively"* 📚(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad). Why? Because unchecked negativity can *"turn a home into a battlefield."*

Today,

Some women will not even say - "Welcome my dear, b4 they start to bombard him with negative unpleasant stories:

"You have left me with these damned kids and rushed off... My mom called and say this and that. The cooking gas is finished and also kerosine. My sister brought a sample of her wedding ANKO and i want u to buy the 3 of them for me.. I can't browse since morning due to lack of data.. Ahmad has broken the glass in the door of the front room.. Our daughters have been fighting.. Hasan does not study at all and he has secured poor marks.. By the way, your sister was here today. I don't know what was wrong with her; she acted as if I had swallowed her father's inheritance😀. May God save me from your mother! She has been talking ill about me behind my back.. I am fed up with all of them. Also, I cut my finger badly with a knife today.. I wish I'd not gone to Muhammad's wedding; you should have seen Rashid's wife! What an outfit! Allah should give me the same luck! Some men really love their wives and buy them beautiful things etc....... Why Madam? Did you want to kill the innocent man? This is why some men die quickly. So, study your husband to know when he's in the mood to accept issues.

*Final Advice on this Matter:*

Next time you feel the urge to complain, ask: 
*"Is this necessary? Is this the right time? Will this bring us closer or push us apart?"*

To be continued

*Shar