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 *Married Women*

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*"Allah is Forgiving and loves forgiveness."* 📚(Quran 22:60)

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

Marriage is a beautiful bond blessed by Allah (SWT), a relationship built on love, patience, and mercy. Yet, like every journey, it has its trials. One of the greatest tests of a wife’s strength is her ability to forgive her husband’s mistakes—big or small—with an open heart. 

My sister,

Every human being errs, and men, like women, are not infallible. The pressures of life—especially economic hardship—can weigh heavily on a man’s shoulders. Financial struggles may push him to act out of character, leading to harsh words, lies, or even moments of anger. While Islam condemns abuse and insults, we must also remember that Shaytan exploits weakness. 

My sister,

*"When poverty comes in through the door, love flies out through the window."* – This proverb reminds us that hardship strains even the strongest hearts. If your husband, in a moment of hidden or open frustration, speaks harshly or makes a mistake, understand that his regret may be silent. 

Remember,

The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, *"The believer who shows the most perfect faith is the one with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives."* 📚(Tirmidhi). However, if your husband falls short, remember: forgiveness is a mercy that softens hearts and heals wounds. However,

1. If he regrets his mistake, whether expressed or unspoken, forgive him. *"Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy."* 📚(Bukhari & Muslim). 
2. If he is too proud to apologize, do not demand open apology. Yes. As the saying goes, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* Pressing the matter may humiliate him, leading to further conflict. 

*Avoiding the Cycle of Blame*

If you constantly remind him of his faults, he may retaliate by pointing out yours, igniting a fire of resentment. The Quran advises: *"Repel evil with what is better,...."* 📚(Quran 41:34). 

Dearest Sister,

*"Do not extinguish a lamp with fire."* – Meaning, do not respond to anger with more anger.  And a wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

*Exceptions: When Forgiveness Has Limits*

Islam permits seeking justice in cases of severe harm, oppression, or continuous abuse. Forgiveness is noble, but self-respect and safety are also rights granted by Allah. If a husband’s behavior crosses Islamic boundaries (persistent cruelty, infidelity, or abandonment of faith), then seeking counsel or intervention is necessary. 

*Final Reminder on this Matter*

By forgiving, you earn Allah’s pleasure, strengthen your marriage, and set an example for your children. 

So, dear sisters, when your husband errs, ask yourself: *"Will holding onto this anger bring me closer to Jannah, or will forgiveness?"* Choose the path of mercy, for *"The best of you are those who are best to their families."* 📚(Tirmidhi). 

May Allah grant you the strength to forgive, the wisdom to understand, and the love to keep your marriage flourishing. Ameen Ya Hayyu La Yamootu Abadah.

To be continued