Today's Husbands* [[-- 7th Show --]]

 *Today's Husbands*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

Brother, Assalamu Alaikum. Let this message be a mirror, not an accusation. Let it be a reminder from one heart to another about a silent disease that is destroying Muslim homes: the disease of "Transfer of Aggression." This disease, the world called it "Transfer of Aggression," but in our deen, we recognize it by its true names: injustice, oppression, and a failure of trust.

Brother,

When the weight of the world bears down on your shoulders—when you don't have money in your pocket or bank account, when work is a struggle, when dignity feels bruised—it is a heavy trial. But remember, a man is not tested by the burden he carries, but by how he carries it.

Your wife, who is your "garment" 📚(Qur'an 2:187) and your source of tranquility, becomes the target of your sharp tongue. Your children, who are an "amanah" (sacred trust) from Allah, have their laughter silenced by your scowl. You "make a mountain out of a molehill," picking quarrels over trivial matters because the real mountain of your stress feels too big to climb. This, dear brother, is the epitome of "kicking the dog" because you can't confront the boss😃.

This behavior is a dangerous deception. It is a short-sighted solution that "robs Peter to pay Paul," creating peace in yourself by waging war in your home. But remember the profound wisdom: "You can't burn down the village to keep yourself warm."

This, dear brother, is a profound deception of Shaytan. And Allah (swt) says in the Qur'an:

"And upon Allah alone let the believers rely." 📚(Surah Ibrahim, 14:11)

Your provision is from Allah, so don't because of your empty pocket, transfer aggression to the people who love you most. Your struggles are a decree from Allah (swt) and a test, so take it easy with your wife and children.

Brother,

To turn your anger towards your family is to misplace the blame. Yes. You are, as the saying goes, "barking up the wrong tree." The problem is not your wife's cooking or your child's laughter; the problem is the unchecked anger in your own heart. But remember the profound wisdom: "You can't burn down the village to keep yourself warm."

Brother,

Your home should be a garden of Jannah, not a battlefield for your frustrations. Yes. "Charity begins at home," and so does righteousness😃. And the true measure of a Muslim man's strength is not in his physical power, but in his ability to positively manage his frustration, control his anger and uphold justice within his own four walls.

Brother,

Your wife is not the reason for the economic meltdown, nor is she responsible for the offence you faced outside your home. To come home and transfer your frustration by seeking faults and picking quarrels is an injustice.

It begins subtly: "Why is this here?" "Why is that not done?" "Have I not told you before?" This constant moaning over trivial matters is not leadership; it is a manifestation of unchecked anger and frustration.

Therefore,

Stop this injustice which the society called - "Transfer of Aggression". Your provision is in the Hands of Allah (swt). Your dignity comes from your Taqwa, not the money inside your pocket. Turn to the One who controls all affairs instead of venting on those who love you most.

To be continued....