Today's Husbands* [[-- 9th Show --]]

 *Today's Husbands*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

Brother in Islam, let us speak with a sincerity that comes from faith. There is a sickness in the hearts of some men—a sickness that Islam came to eradicate—that has returned.

My brother,

Allah (swt) gives us children as a beautiful gift. But some men feel sad when the gift is a girl.

Today,

It is very sad to see that in many places, when a baby boy is born, the parents are full of joy, but when a baby girl is born, their faces show disappointment. This attitude of preferring boys over girls is the same as the people from the time of ignorance before Islam, and it is a behavior that our religion, Islam, completely forbids.

Let me share with you three simple but powerful truths.

(1) Allah’s Plan is Perfect.

Look at the story of Maryam (AS). Her mother promised to give her child to serve in the mosque. She thought only a boy could do this important job. But Allah (swt) had a better plan. He gave her a girl.

And this girl, Maryam, became so great and so pure that Allah made her an example for the whole world. Her service to Allah was better than what anyone could have imagined.

Allah shows us: A child is a blessing, boy or girl. The important thing is not the gender, but how good and blessed the child will be.

(2) The Prophet (PBUH) Showed Us:

Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the best man to ever live.

And most of his children who lived were daughters! He had Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kulthoom, and Fatimah (RA).

He loved them, cared for them, and was proud of them. He never once showed he wanted a son instead. Yes. And If the best creation of Allah (swt) was happy with daughters, who are we to be unhappy?

When you are sad about a daughter, you are acting like the ignorant people from the time before Islam. This is not from our religion.

(3) The Science is Clear: It Is the Father’s Doing.

Now, for the man who is angry with his wife for having a baby girl… this is the biggest mistake.

Let's understand how a baby's gender is decided. It is very simple science:

Woman can only give an X.

Man can give an X or a Y.

Baby Girl = XX, that's  X (from mother) + X (from father)

Baby Boy = XY, that's  X (from mother) + Y (from father)

Do you see?

If a baby girl is born, it is because the FATHER gave an X chromosome.

So, if you are unhappy about having a daughter, you are actually unhappy with yourself😃. Yes. You are blaming your wife for something that you caused😃. This is a great injustice to her and to your child.

Conclusion:

Allah chooses what is best for us. A daughter is not a punishment. She is a beautiful trust from Allah.

The Prophet (PBUH) said that if a man raises his daughters well and is good to them, they will be a shield for him against the Hellfire.

So, open your heart. Thank Allah for your daughter. Love her mother. Raise her to be a strong, pious Muslim woman. In her, you will find your path to Paradise.

To be continued...