Today's Husbands* [[-Fourth Show-]]

 *Today's Husbands*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

You may never raise your hand, so you believe your record is clean. You see no bruises, so you assume there is no sin. But you are gravely mistaken. Yes. The wounds you inflict are deeper and more lasting than any physical mark. You are engaged in a slow assassination of the soul, and on the Day of Judgment, every word will be held to account.

Allah (swt) says in the Qur'an:

“And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden.” 📚(Al-Isra, 17:33)

The scholars have said that killing is of two types: killing the body, and killing the heart, reputation, and spirit.

Now,

Which one do you specialize in?

Brother,

Consider what you do:

(1) When you call her “useless,” “stupid,” or “barren,” you are not correcting her; you are throwing stones at a fragile vessel, cracking the very confidence Allah placed within her.

(2) When you humiliate her in public or in front of your children, you are not teaching her respect; you are cutting off the nose to spite the face. You shame the very woman who is your garment, and in doing so, you expose your own dishonor.

(3) When you isolate her from her good friends and family, confiscate her phone, and poison people's mind against her, you are not protecting her; you are a gardener who uproots a plant from its soil and wonders why it refuses to grow. You are her prison warden😃, not her protector.

Brother,

The Prophet (pbuh) was a living embodiment of kindness. His speech was never foul. He never cursed a woman. He never belittled his wives. He said, *“A believer does not taunt, nor curse, nor speak obscenely, nor abuse.”* 📚(Tirmidhi)

Now,

You, with your insults and your psychological games, are building a castle of thorns. You may sit on its throne, but you will forever be pricked by its isolation and bitterness. Yes. Your home, which should be a place of Sakinah (tranquility), has become a chamber of silent screams and broken self-worth.

Worse still, you are teaching your children a devastating curriculum😃. Yes. Your sons are learning that a man's strength lies in degradation. Your daughters are learning that their worth is defined by a man's harsh criticism. You are not just breaking your wife; you are poisoning the next generation.

Brother,

On the Day of Judgment, your hands will be clean, but your tongue will be heavy with the weight of every ill speech, curse, every insult, every malicious word.

Your wife will not need to show a bruise. The angels have recorded every “useless,” every “stupid,” every tear shed out of pains. The angels have recorded the friendships between you and your wife you severed. On that Day, your words will stand as mountains of evidence against you. You will be asked about the trust (amanah) of her heart, which you were commanded to cherish, but instead, you shattered.

To be continued....