Today's Husbands* [[-- 8th Show --]]

 *Today's Husbands*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

A man named Ammar was very angry with his wife. He was keeping a list in his mind of all the small mistakes she made. He decided to ignore her to punish her.

He left home earlier to the masjid to establish Ishai prayer in congregation. He met one of the visiting scholars giving the tafseer of a verse from the Quran: "Would you not like Allah to forgive you?" 📚Surah An-Nur 24:22

That very night, he had a powerful dream. In the dream, an angel showed him his own life's record. It was a very long list of all the bad things and mistakes Ammar had ever done. He saw that it was a very big list.

He was shocked and ashamed. He asked the angel to stop showing him the remaining list.

Then, the angel showed him his wife's record. Her list was very small. But it was not a list of her mistakes. It was a list of all the times she had forgiven Ammar for his mistakes. It showed that she often chose to be kind and let things go because she loved him.

Ammar understood the bitter truth. His wife had forgiven him many times, but he never forgave her for small things.

He woke up and cried😢. He went to his wife and hugged her tightly without saying a word.

He learned his lesson: You should forgive others because you yourself need Allah's forgiveness for your own many mistakes.

From that day, he stopped keeping a list of his wife's faults and chose to forgive instead.

Brother,

Let us speak plainly about a poison that seeps into marriages, a disease that turns homes into courtrooms😃 and spouses into adversaries. It is the disease of "Tit-for-Tat".

In this mindset, every disagreement becomes a battle to be won. Every mistake by your wife is recorded as evidence to be used against her. You hold onto grievances, waiting for the perfect moment to "give her a taste of her own medicine." You operate on the flawed logic that forgiveness is a prize you award only when your wife admits she was wrong, and you were right.

But pause and reflect on this bitter truth:

Had it not been for her forgiveness, her willingness to overlook your faults and let things slide in countless situations, your relationship would not have reached its present stage.

In our homes, we are commanded to emulate the spirit of forgiveness. Allah (swt) says in the Qur'an:

"Let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." 📚(Surah An-Nur, 24:22)

Read this very verse again.

The logic is divine and simple: "Let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you?" This is the core of the matter. We must, at the very least, forgive others because we desperately, urgently want Allah (swt) to forgive our own monumental sins and daily transgressions.

Brother,

Your marriage is not a business transaction where debts must be repaid. It is a sacred covenant of mercy and compassion. Yes. By holding onto grudges, you are not punishing her; you are "cutting off your nose to spite your face," poisoning your own peace and sabotaging the barakah of your home.

Brother,

Stop making forgiveness a hostage to who is right or wrong. Yes. Because, the stronger man is not the one who never apologizes; the stronger man is the one who is first to forgive, even when he feels he has been wronged.

To be continued...