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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 21*
*WOMEN IN SOME MUSLIM COMMUNITIES*
It is undoubtedly true that some women in some Muslims communities are made to believe that they are not intelligent or even useful. Some men in some Muslim communities have reduced women to mere house wives, sex machines, baby producers, house maid and so on. When it comes to decision-making they are left out. Their voices are insignificant and irrelevant because they don't matter at all. In the beginning it is just a myth or theory. But Gradually, gradually, they themselves are beginning to accept it and even prove it. They just sit and watch, they hardly contribute to anything, they lack the courage to stand up for themselves and prove their worth.
In the part of the world where I live, things are entirely different. Women are equally responsible as men. They take charge of their affairs, they challenge men, they compete with men in terms of achievements. They refuse to allow that myth to work on them. They strive and earn their income, they own properties, they own their marriage. They are not in a TV and Remote relationship where only the husband matters. They refused to be oppressed and disrespected. Yet, they are obedient, law-abiding, responsible and respectful.
Dear women, until and unless you stand against bullies, men will continue to control your thoughts. They will continue to make you think you are useless. We learned from the wives of the messenger of Allah. They were productive and intelligent. They chip in where necessary, they speak where relevant, they participate in the mission of their husband. Some times you need to prove to your husband that you can do it, and you are intelligent. I personally believe every human being is intelligent. So prove it to him. Am not asking you to be a Liberal or feminist, NO! I am asking you to be useful by contributing in your home and your marriage in general. And remember to stay within the limits of the shari'ah (Islamic law).
Dear men, how would your wives be able to prove themselves to you if you don't give them the opportunity and platform to do so.? How would you ever know that your wife is intelligent and worthy if you don't try her? Marriage is not a vacation or holiday. Marriage is an institution full of organs and units. Your wife should be your wife, at times your friend, at times your adviser, at times your play mate, at times your chef or sex machine as the case maybe, at times you become her father or brother. In fact, sometimes when my wife is asked, how many children do you have, she often make a joke, 3, these two little boys and this big adult. 😂. Meaning I am her son too because she takes care of me like her son. Shave me up, bath me, feed me, massage me, advice me like a child, cut my hair, cleanse my oily face, and serve me in many other ways.😉. I always give my wife the privilege to speak up, I let her question my decisions, I let her challenge me where I go wrong. And Alhamdulillah, if I had succeeded 10 times in my life, definitely she had a hand in 7 successes. So, always give them the opportunity and platform to exhibit their talents. Don't allow their talents to be wasted in kitchen and bed. Women are the most intelligent beings on the planet, if you think I am joking, ask Shaitan... 😁
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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 21*
*WOMEN IN SOME MUSLIM COMMUNITIES*
It is undoubtedly true that some women in some Muslims communities are made to believe that they are not intelligent or even useful. Some men in some Muslim communities have reduced women to mere house wives, sex machines, baby producers, house maid and so on. When it comes to decision-making they are left out. Their voices are insignificant and irrelevant because they don't matter at all. In the beginning it is just a myth or theory. But Gradually, gradually, they themselves are beginning to accept it and even prove it. They just sit and watch, they hardly contribute to anything, they lack the courage to stand up for themselves and prove their worth.
In the part of the world where I live, things are entirely different. Women are equally responsible as men. They take charge of their affairs, they challenge men, they compete with men in terms of achievements. They refuse to allow that myth to work on them. They strive and earn their income, they own properties, they own their marriage. They are not in a TV and Remote relationship where only the husband matters. They refused to be oppressed and disrespected. Yet, they are obedient, law-abiding, responsible and respectful.
Dear women, until and unless you stand against bullies, men will continue to control your thoughts. They will continue to make you think you are useless. We learned from the wives of the messenger of Allah. They were productive and intelligent. They chip in where necessary, they speak where relevant, they participate in the mission of their husband. Some times you need to prove to your husband that you can do it, and you are intelligent. I personally believe every human being is intelligent. So prove it to him. Am not asking you to be a Liberal or feminist, NO! I am asking you to be useful by contributing in your home and your marriage in general. And remember to stay within the limits of the shari'ah (Islamic law).
Dear men, how would your wives be able to prove themselves to you if you don't give them the opportunity and platform to do so.? How would you ever know that your wife is intelligent and worthy if you don't try her? Marriage is not a vacation or holiday. Marriage is an institution full of organs and units. Your wife should be your wife, at times your friend, at times your adviser, at times your play mate, at times your chef or sex machine as the case maybe, at times you become her father or brother. In fact, sometimes when my wife is asked, how many children do you have, she often make a joke, 3, these two little boys and this big adult. 😂. Meaning I am her son too because she takes care of me like her son. Shave me up, bath me, feed me, massage me, advice me like a child, cut my hair, cleanse my oily face, and serve me in many other ways.😉. I always give my wife the privilege to speak up, I let her question my decisions, I let her challenge me where I go wrong. And Alhamdulillah, if I had succeeded 10 times in my life, definitely she had a hand in 7 successes. So, always give them the opportunity and platform to exhibit their talents. Don't allow their talents to be wasted in kitchen and bed. Women are the most intelligent beings on the planet, if you think I am joking, ask Shaitan... 😁
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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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