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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 33*
*THE CONDITION THAT PERMITS A MAN TO MARRY MORE THAN ONE WIFE IN ISLAM*
Polygamy:- is the type of marriage, that permits a man to marry more than one wife in islam i.e. from 2, 3 to 4.
Almighty Allāh says in the Glorious Qur-ān chapter 3 verse 3,
ﻓَﺎﻧْﻜِﺤُﻮۡﺍ ﻣَﺎ ﻃَﺎﺏَ ﻟَـﻜُﻢۡ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨِّﺴَﺎٓﺀِ ﻣَﺜۡﻨٰﻰ ﻭَﺛُﻠٰﺚَ ﻭَﺭُﺑٰﻊَ ۚ
marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.
But there are some certain conditions that a man needs to fulfil before he is allowed to practice polygamy.
(1) Ability to be just:-
Justice for a man practicing polygamy is a most among his wives, he should be able to treat them equally in terms of feeding, clothing, shelter, spending night with them and other social necessities that are under his control. And if a man is afraid that he will not be able to treat his wives justly When he marries more than one wife then it is forbidden for him to practice polygamy.
The Qur-ān says:
“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess." [al-Nisa’ 4:3]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141) and many others
The prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was the most just to his wives, to the extent that he use to draw lots between them when he want to travel.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to go out on a journey, he would cast lots between his wives and the one whose name was drawn, he would take her with him. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2454) and Muslim (2770).
(2). Financial stability:-
A man is said to be financially stable before he is allowed to go for the second wife. He should make sure, That the rights and responsibilities of his current wife is well fulfilled, and she doesn't lack anything from him like feeding, shelter, hospital bills e.t.c,
Allah says in the Qur'an
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allaah enriches them of His Bounty” [al-Noor 24:33 ]
(3). Physical and Sexual ability to satisfy them sexually
So sad that today many men dont have the sexual capacity to satisfy even one wife, yet they want to go for a second wife. Thus, a man should have the strength and good health to satisfy his wives. Though is not compulsory for a man to have sex anytime he spends time with one of his wives but he should be ready to satisfy them whenever the need arises.
It was narrated that Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to go around to all his wives in one hour of the night or day, and they were eleven wives. He [the narrator] said: I said to Anas: Was he able for that? He said: We used to say that he had been given the strength of thirty men. Al-Bukhaari (268).
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 33*
*THE CONDITION THAT PERMITS A MAN TO MARRY MORE THAN ONE WIFE IN ISLAM*
Polygamy:- is the type of marriage, that permits a man to marry more than one wife in islam i.e. from 2, 3 to 4.
Almighty Allāh says in the Glorious Qur-ān chapter 3 verse 3,
ﻓَﺎﻧْﻜِﺤُﻮۡﺍ ﻣَﺎ ﻃَﺎﺏَ ﻟَـﻜُﻢۡ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨِّﺴَﺎٓﺀِ ﻣَﺜۡﻨٰﻰ ﻭَﺛُﻠٰﺚَ ﻭَﺭُﺑٰﻊَ ۚ
marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.
But there are some certain conditions that a man needs to fulfil before he is allowed to practice polygamy.
(1) Ability to be just:-
Justice for a man practicing polygamy is a most among his wives, he should be able to treat them equally in terms of feeding, clothing, shelter, spending night with them and other social necessities that are under his control. And if a man is afraid that he will not be able to treat his wives justly When he marries more than one wife then it is forbidden for him to practice polygamy.
The Qur-ān says:
“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess." [al-Nisa’ 4:3]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141) and many others
The prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was the most just to his wives, to the extent that he use to draw lots between them when he want to travel.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to go out on a journey, he would cast lots between his wives and the one whose name was drawn, he would take her with him. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2454) and Muslim (2770).
(2). Financial stability:-
A man is said to be financially stable before he is allowed to go for the second wife. He should make sure, That the rights and responsibilities of his current wife is well fulfilled, and she doesn't lack anything from him like feeding, shelter, hospital bills e.t.c,
Allah says in the Qur'an
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allaah enriches them of His Bounty” [al-Noor 24:33 ]
(3). Physical and Sexual ability to satisfy them sexually
So sad that today many men dont have the sexual capacity to satisfy even one wife, yet they want to go for a second wife. Thus, a man should have the strength and good health to satisfy his wives. Though is not compulsory for a man to have sex anytime he spends time with one of his wives but he should be ready to satisfy them whenever the need arises.
It was narrated that Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to go around to all his wives in one hour of the night or day, and they were eleven wives. He [the narrator] said: I said to Anas: Was he able for that? He said: We used to say that he had been given the strength of thirty men. Al-Bukhaari (268).
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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