Skip to main content

Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 35*


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 35*

*MARRIED COUPLE MUST AVOID ARGUING*

Undoubtedly a great deal of criticism and arguing in marriage is something negative that undermines harmony, love and damages the marriage  and children's mindset. Married couple must  reduce that as much as possible, and to show restraint; each of us should force ourselves to be patient with the other and to avoid issues of arguments as Shaitan is the winner at the end.

Our Beloved messenger of Allāh (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) has advised that we must avoid arguing even if we are at the right side of the story. Argument is a tool which sheitan uses to damage relationship which is the number one of his priorities.

Any human being COULD NOT be free of faults or shortcomings, because that is part of human nature, especially women, whose basic nature the Prophet (blessings and peace of ALLAH be upon him) has told us about, and said that there is no hope of changing her nature completely.

It was narrated from Samurah ibn Jundub that the Messenger of ALLAH (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Woman was created from a rib; if you try to straighten her you will break her. So be kind to her and you will live with ease with her.” Narrated by Ahmad (20093) and Ibn Hibbaan (4178); classed as saheeh by our Sheikh al-Albaani.

What is well-established in psychology, and what is known from experience, is that stubbornness and arguing with a partner who is not patient with lengthy discussions and arguments will only result in bad consequences for the marriage and will increase resentment between the spouses. So it's important for both partners to avoid any form of argument especially in front of children if any or in front of any other people regardless of who they are.

May ALLAH keep guiding our eemaan and protect our Marriages from any satanic influences. Aameen.


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT THE PERMISSION OF ALLAH

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yawm Arba'a. 29th day of Shaw'waal, 1445AH (Wednesday 8th May 2024). *_NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT THE PERMISSION OF ALLAH_*. BismilLah.  Even though feelings of Panic, stress/worries etc are part of life, they must not reduce our acts of worship or trust in ALLAH. The more a man turns to ALLAH and focuses on HIM, the more he will feel a sense of peace and comfort, to an extent that no one knows except ALLAH. Hence those who know ALLAH, are close to HIM and fear HIM are the happiest of people, to such an extent that one of them said, in a well-known expression: “If the kings and the sons of kings knew what joy we have, they would fight us for it with the sword.” This is also what is expressed in the Qur’an, as ALLAH says: “Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him ALLAH will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and ALLAH will ...

Friday and it's dignity.

 Friday and it's dignity. Alhamdulillah, Allah says, Al-Jumu'ah 62:9 يَآأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓاْ إِذَا نُودِيَ لِلصَّلَوٰةِ مِن يَوۡمِ ٱلۡجُمُعَةِ فَٱسۡعَوۡاْ إِلَىٰ ذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِ وَذَرُواْ ٱلۡبَيۡعَۚ ذَٰلِكُمۡ خَيۡرࣱ لَّكُمۡ إِن كُنتُمۡ تَعۡلَمُونَ O you who have believed, when [the adhān] is called for the prayer on the day of Jumuʿah [Friday], then proceed to the remembrance of Allāh and leave trade. That is better for you, if you only knew. Friday is the best day of the week because it was the day Adam was created, the day he entered paradise and the day he was removed from paradise. it was also the day he died and the hour(qiyaamah) will not come except on this day. Sahih. It was narrated from Aws bin Aws that: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Whoever washes (ghassala) and performs ghusl, comes early to the masjid and sits near the imam and does not engage in idle talk, he will have for every step he takes (the reward of) a year's worth of good deeds, fasting it and...

The story of taqwa

 The story of taqwa. Taqwa means fear of Allah. There once lived a young woman who was very beautiful lady and had all the qualities a man needed. She was well covered and oneday ,she was attacked with her families. This woman was taken away and brought to a man who was the bandits leader. As she was brought, the man wanted to sleep with her as she was so sad and in pain. As she undressed and coming to her, she said fear Allah and know death can come to you now. If you have a mother or sister like me, don't disgrace and destroy my honor for I won't forgive you  The leader immediately remembered he had a sister he loved a lot and so he quickly stopped and dressed and said to the lady, you can go. All the bandits were amazed of what their leader did. Three days later,the man whose sister was there and everyone in the sister knew her brother was wicked man. So every man was sacred. So a stranger walking by saw his sister and he felt in love with her. She went to her and said I wa...