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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 22


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 22*

*HOW SHOULD LOVE FLOWS AMONGST COUPLES*

One of the main objectives of marriage is the preservation and continuation of the human race. The foundation of a happy home is built base on true love. It is the backbone of every blissful marriage. Therefore, more of it is expected from the man as it is the amount of love that can determine a happy home, with no love nothing will go on right instead every day fighting and quarrelling will be the order of the day.

Almighty Allāh says:

"And amongst His signs is this, that He created for you wives from amongst yourselves, that you may find repose in them and He has put between you affection and mercy." (Ar-Rum:21).

To emphasise more on  love from the man in marriage, the prophet says:

"Marry the very loving virgin". This is to say he has attached more importance to love before even a virgin could be married because it is the foundation upon which marriage should be built. Subsequently, the husband should always be honest in all his dealings with his wife. He should avoid unreasonable things. He should know that his wife is a human being who is bound to err as "to err is human and to forgive is divine," so a hundred percent of perfection should not be expected from her.

In addition, the husband should also respect his wife's opinion in respect to certain family matters, they should take themselves as brother and sister. The Glorious Qur'an says:" the believers are nothing else than brothers...."(Al-Hujurat:10).

The husband should not embarrass his wife likewise; the wife should do the same as the prophet says: "Instruct husbands to be kind to their women." (Reported by Muslim). Also He should teach her how to abide by moral Islamic injunction, how to purify herself from filth through ritual bath etc. He is expected to give her psychological, emotional and spiritual companionship. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was always an excellent person in dealing with his wives. He created a sense of belonging to them to the extent that he often enjoined his disciples to be of such character to their wife's. He was the best of mankind and the best example to follow in terms of good behaviour. According to some narrations he used to play, smile and even involve in domestic activities with them.

In a nutshell, men are charged with protection and maintenance of their wives. The Qur'an says: "Men are the protectors and maintenance of women."(Al-Nisa:34)

 May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) protect us. Ameen


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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