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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 48


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 48*

*MOST IMPORTANT QUALITY OF A MAN OR WOMAN AS AN IDEAL LIFE PARTNER. SECRETS FOR BROTHERS AND ESPECIALLY FOR SISTERS TO NOTE.*

Sunnah making (sexual intercourse) is an important element in marriage and until there is this sunnah between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sunnah making is in marriage.

When you look at how aggressive men are towards sunnah making you may think that what a man needs from a woman is the sexual. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married, sunnah making is never the priority to be sincere - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN AND VICE VERSA IS NOT SEXUAL."

Many young girls in particular think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all. You got it wrong sister. Similarly as soon as a woman is well satisfied with a man sexually she think that's my man nothing else huh?😱 You got it wrong my brothers and sisters who think this way. For the secret of what our partners prefer?

The secret to a successful marriage  is the fact  that husbands need SUBMISSION from the wife and and the most wives need is CARING, not necessarily sex. It is time for our young brothers/ladies to know that when a man/woman is ready to marry he/she will not look out for a woman/man who will satisfy his/her sex drive but a woman/man who will submit herself to him and care for her. Every woman has womanhood but not every woman has humility. So when you are a humble woman and caring man, you are an expensive jewellery. And a man/ women of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Holy  Qur-ān  says, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be😊.

When a wife becomes submissive before her husband in humility, the man will automatically bow his heart before her, and love her sincerely. I tell you that every true man does not need sex as a priority, but submissive nature type. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also. Aside all these, if any of the two has no Eemaan (faith) through knowledge of Islam, then it's like building a house on the desert.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationships and marriages and I pray that may Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) grant submissive and caring husbands and wives to those who are in it or willing to marry soon. Aameen.


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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