Suffering in Silence* [[---- Episode 1 ----]]

 *Suffering in Silence*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

Al-Qurtubi (r.h.) said: *“If you have power over your wife, then remember the Might of Allah; Allah’s Might is over every might, so no one should transgress his wife, as Allah Almighty, is indeed in observation and watching.”* 📚[End of quote]

My people!

Your wives are a trust (Amanah) from Allah, not your slaves. I've observed many men who treat their wives like slaves, like nobody, demanding unconditional obedience regardless of how poorly they're treated. Treat your wives with respect and dignity, not as slaves. Additionally, don't force yourself into polygamy if you're not financially capable of supporting multiple families.

Actually,

There is no doubt that just as the husband leads his wife to Paradise or to Hellfire, the wife may also lead him to Paradise or to Hellfire. This is because she has rights upon him in the same manner that he has rights upon her.

Servants of Allah!

The Islamic Shari’ah has placed a great emphasis on the rights of the weak, whom should be treated with mercy and compassion. The Prophet continuously emphasized that women in many situations fall under the category of the weak along with the orphans. It was reported by al–Nasai and Ibn Majah with a sound transition as Imam al Nawawi stated in his book “Riyad al- Salehin” that the Prophet said, *“O God be my witness that I admonish people about disregarding the right of the two weak parties: the orphan and the woman.”*

The woman is in need of mercy because of the nature of her physical structure and her need for someone to take care of her affairs. For this reason, the Prophet described women to be similar to a soft glass which should be handled with gentleness and care. That is the reason behind the emphasis of Islam on dealing with the wife with kindness and care, and God reiterated that the basic building blocks of matrimony are mercy, affection and serenity. Allah ?swt) says,

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought” 📚(Quran30:21).

Similarly,

Islam encourages leniency and softness in fixing mistakes and correcting errors. The Prophet (pbuh) called for softness and leniency in all affairs. Nana ‘Aisha narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said, “When leniency becomes part of any matter, it beautifies it and when it is extracted from it, it mars it” 📚(Muslim).

My brothers

A wife is an Amanah to be respected and safeguarded by her spouse because she is a creation full of feelings and emotions. The husband must abide by Shariah in the way he treats her and follow the acts of our prophet in all his manners with his loved one.

To parents,

I advise: be cautious of who you give your daughter's hand in marriage to. Some men are undeserving of this responsibility. Yes. Many husbands misbehave due to a lack of knowledge about Shariah or decay of faith in Allah (swt).

*Appreciation:*

Some husbands get upset when their wives refuse to ......

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