Signs to recognise a child abuser

 *Signs to recognise a child abuser*

by PragmaticParents.com

A Child Predator looks just like you and me, which is why child predators hiding in plain sight can be hard to see. How to spot a Child Predator: Red Flags & Warning Signs of a Pedophile. Know the child grooming techniques child predator uses. Learn how to tell if someone is preying on your trust, taking advantage of your situation & innocent child. How to spot a child molester & signs of predator grooming from other children, family and adults. 

A Child Predator Looks Just Like You and Me 

As a parent, one of your strongest instincts is to keep your child safe – from harm, from abuse, from being preyed upon. Predators – do you know what to look for if someone is “grooming” your child?

Predators are hidden in plain sight – they can be an older sibling, family member, relative, colleague or friend. In fact, 90% of the time a predator is someone with a relationship to the victim and the family.

You may be thinking… that won’t happen to my child, that can’t happen to our family. But it can. The best thing you do is to be prepared to spot the red flags BEFORE something happens. Predators have child grooming techniques you can learn to spot.

How to tell if someone is a child predator?

Child Molesters are very cunning in their deception – they have to be in order to get away with these despicable acts. Children – innocent, naïve and trusting – are the most susceptible to the deliberate tricks and ploys a pedophile uses to gain their trust, as well as the family’s trust.

Signs of a child pedophile? They’re notoriously friendly, engaging, nice and likable.

On the outside, they have a great looking life and are well-liked by others. They strategically target their victims, often installing themselves into a child’s life through family, school, church, sports, and activities.

A CHILD PREDATOR GAINS TIME WITH CHILDREN

They spend excessive time at your home and with you and your family. This includes a sibling, relatives, family friends, neighbors, colleagues, cousins, a coach or teacher who have taken a special interest in one particular child.

They will work very hard to arrange for alone with your child – they are not doing you a favor or helping out of the goodness of their heart. Alone time is a seized opportunity.

WHAT DOES A CHILD MOLESTER LOOK FOR?

Vulnerability. A child that may be in need of extra attention, affection or who may be more of a loner and in need of friendship or guidance. This child may lack confidence or seem shy.

Opportunities. Watch your surroundings and gatherings. Normal adults with chit chat with children for a few minutes and then turn their attention to adult conversations but if a grown-up prefers to spend time with the kids playing – this is a red flag.

SIGNS OF A CHILD PREDATOR: HOW TO IDENTIFY GROOMING BEHAVIOR 

A Child predator is an expert at grooming children and their parents, by gaining trust, using gifts and attention. These are the first warning signs of a predator.

What do kids love more than toys and gifts? A predator is an expert at finding the soft spot of a child because they work especially hard to relate to kids and speak their language. If someone is gifting items to your child that you may not be able to afford, seems excessive, gives an adult an opportunity to spend more time with your child – this is a major warning sign.

A predator will prep your child – they’ll test the waters to make sure your child can keep secrets.

SIGNS OF A CHILD PREDATOR IN ACTION

✅~Spends most of his/her spare time with children and has little interest in spending time with people his/her own age?;

✅~Repeatedly ignores social, emotional and/or physical boundaries and limits;

✅~Singles out a child, lavishes them with extra attention, affections, gifts and develops an age-inappropriate relationship;

✅~Pushes and regularly suggests “alone” time with your child;

✅~Pushes physical boundaries with a child including hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling or holding a child even when the child resists physical contact or attention;

✅~Shares inappropriate, adult-geared personal or private information with your child;

✅~Points out sexual images or tells inappropriate or suggestive stories in front of children;

✅~Appears “too good to be true” and is frequently swooping in to babysit your children for free, help out often, takes your children for overnight outings, take your children on special outings alone, buying them gifts for no apparent reason – especially a person who does not have children of their own

✅~Frequently walks in on children/teens in the bathroom