Advice to Wives

 *Advice to Wives*

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As Salaam Alaykum
Please what can a woman that doesn't want to be emotionally disturbed because of her husband's mentality of marrying another wife do to take it off her mind... It's really bothering her and is now like something she can't evict

*Response:*

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

(A)

I understand what you feel and it's normal to feel disturbed when faced with this kind of situation. But the biggest weapon to use to overcome the trauma and worries associated with this is to (a) take it that it's a written in the book of Allah that a man can marry more than one woman. This mean that, Allah swt has made it a test for already married woman and will reward any woman who pass this test and bear it with patience - I mean the issue of second wife of a thing... (b) Take it that it doesn't start in your house or with you. Many married women have faced the same challenge of getting another woman coming in as 2nd or 3rd or 4th wife.

(B)

Try to start making sincere continuous Dua to Allah that *"if this lady/woman my husband is about marrying will be a blessing for him, his children and myself (his wife), Ya Allah 🙏🏻 make it worked out. But if this lady/woman my husband is about marrying as second wife will be a source of troubles, disharmony and separation/divorce between me and my husband, then, Ya Allah 🙏🏻do everything to stop this marriage. Ya Allah 🙏🏻 stop anything my husband is having with that lady/woman as relationship completely"*. Give islamically permissible sadaqah time-to-time while making this Du'a (as sadaqah quicken the acceptance of Du'a). In Shaa Allah, say this Du'a continuously especially in the middle of the night (during Tahajjud time) until Allah (swt) carryout HIS will.

Also,

Make Du'a to Allah (swt) to help you remove the worry about this second marriage of a thing from your heart, body and soul. In Sha Allah, gradually, you will see everything taking shape (because the only thing which changes destiny is Du'a).

Evidences:

Salman reported: The Messenger of Allah, (PBUH) said, “Nothing repels the divine decree but supplication, and nothing increases life span but righteousness.” 📚Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi‌ 2139

And,

قُلْ مَا يَعْبَؤُا۟ بِكُمْ رَبِّى لَوْلَا دُعَآؤُكُمْ ۖ

"Say, My Lord would not have care about you if not for your supplication (Dua)?".." 📚(25:77)

(C)

If you are alone not doing anything and you feel disturbed about the situation, carry your Quran and read or play audio Quran. In Sha Allah, the words of Allah swt is an option which gives tranquility to the heart and a stronger medicine for all worries, illness or diseases and satanic plot that will be pushing negative thoughts on your heart regarding this. Do this continuously and you will see good results In Shaa Allah

وَنُنَزِّلُ مِنَ ٱلْقُرْءَانِ مَا هُوَ شِفَآءٌ وَرَحْمَةٌ لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَۙ وَلَا يَزِيدُ ٱلظَّٰلِمِينَ إِلَّا خَسَارًا

"And We send down of the Qur’ān that which is healing and mercy for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in loss". 📚Al-Isra' 17:82

(D)

Check yourself to see if there are things or behaviors you are doing that is he not happy about. Yes. Maybe in area of cleanliness, lack of manners and respect, shortfalls inside bedroom, ungratefulness, I don't care attitude etc etc. Change any unpleasant behaviors of yours towards him and you will see what Allah (swt) will do for you of good in your marriage.

*Men Intending to Marry More:*

Can u, as man be comfortable if u are put into a situation where 3 other men, will be LEGISLATED to share with u, the wife u have at home? Even ur Ex-fiancée or Ex-wife, how do you feel if u see her with another man? This is why u should sympathize with her. Please pamper her instead of picking quarrel with her because she demonstrate jealousy. At least, u can't beat a child and prevent the child from crying.

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