Jealous Women*

 *Jealous Women*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Prophet Muhammad's wife, Ramla bint Abu Sufyan - Umm Habibah lived to a very old age. On her deathbed, she called for Nana A’ishah and said to her, “There was between us what is normally between co-wives. May Allah forgive us for that.”

‘A’ishah answered, “May Allah have mercy on you and forgive you for that.”

Umm Habibah was comforted and said, “You have pleased me. May Allah please you.” She said the same to Umm Salamah, and the latter answered in the same way.

This is the story of a believing Muslim woman who declared her faith while her father was the leader of pagans. She held fast to her faith when her husband became an apostate. She went through two hijrahs, one to Abyssinia and the other to Madinah. She never lost her faith, even in the most delicate and trying moments.

She desired to return to Allah (swt) wholly purified from anything that would stain her faith, so she asked her co-wives to forgive her and they did. May Allah have mercy on Umm Habibah and all her co-wives, the Mothers of the Faithful.

*Lessons from the Above:*

A wife being jealous of the other wives of her husband & the Islamic point of view

It is the nature of a woman to be jealous about her husband. This is a matter that all women feel whatever their level of piety and religion is. Yes. If any women could have been free from this, it would have been the mothers of the believers who were pure and whom Allah (swt) thoroughly purified.

Indeed Nana Aa'ishah (r.a.) was jealous over the Prophet (pbuh) when he went out by night [as she thought that he left her to go to his other wives] so when the prophet came back he told her: "O 'Aa'ishah, are you jealous?'' She replied: "How is it that a person like myself would not be jealous about a person like yourself?" 📚[Muslim]

However, if this jealousy is beyond the limits, it is dispraised and it might cause the breaking up of the one's faith, family & marriage.. So being jealous without a sound religious reason is dispraised and leads to bad consequences including Allah's anger.

My sisters,

Allah (swt) does not like bad kind of jealousy. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "Allah does not like suspicion without a sound religious reason." 📚[An-Nasaa'ee]

So, a woman should fear Allah and she should not spoil her marital life by exaggerating in being jealous especially the ones caused by suspicious acts.

Today,

Out of jealousy, you see a woman going as far as dumping her faith into dustbin by getting charms planted just to monopolize the husband. Some may even cheat on the children of the co-wife. They behave as if they won't die one day!

Muslim Faithful!

Among the things that will help a chronic jealous wife to get rid of this dispraised jealousy is to supplicate Allah (swt) as much as possible in order to remove this kind of jealousy from her. 

Besides, women should think good of their husband in most cases and stop being suspicious. Yes. My husband did this and that and that with my co-wife without sound proof. They should remember the danger of being suspicious about a fellow Muslim as the Prophet (pbuh) said: *"Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales. And do not look for others' faults, or spy on them."* 📚[Al-Bukhari]

In principle, a Muslim is innocent and we have to consider him as such unless proven guilty. Allah (swt) says: *{O you who have believed, avoid much negative assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin.}* 📚[49:12].